The Tyrant’s Confusion

the tyrant's confusion

The journey out of the tyrant’s frenzied fantasies returns our sense of self to the felt reality that holds us in its arms.

In his classic book, The Hero with a Thousand Faces, Joseph Campbell presents not just the hero, but also the tyrant with a thousand faces – and shows him to be an equal force at work within the stories of world myth. As those stories bring the tyrant to life for us, we witness his desperate self-centeredness, his need to acquire and hold fast to whatever he can, and his impulses to manipulate people and circumstances to suit his personal agenda. What distinguishes the tyrant’s attitude above all else is his belief that he deserves his special status because, according to some private yardstick, he is better than others.

Continue reading →

The Eagle Soared While The Sparrow Sang

the eagle and the sparrow

The significance of my encounter with birds in the garden this morning and where it took me spiritually.

I have been up most of last night watching the UK General Election results come in. It was an exciting night that confounded the expectations of most pollsters and pundits. Theresa May, the Prime Minister and leader of the Conservative Party, did not receive the mandate for ‘strong and stable’ government that she expected, leaving her with the largest party but not with a majority. Jeremy Corbyn, the leader of the opposition Labour Party dramatically increased the labour seats in the House of Commons and the Labour share of the vote, despite the predictions of the Labour Party disappearing for decades.

Continue reading →

Tell Your Wife The Truth About That Dress

telling the truth

How I came to terms with what it means to tell the truth and be authentic. How Yoga Philosophy was the key.

Three events over the last few weeks have helped me to re-consider my approach to telling the truth. You know that moment when your wife comes out in a new dress, as you are getting ready to go out for a celebration dinner. The moment you see it you think it is hideous and she asks you if she looks good in it. You stand in thought for a moment—not too long otherwise she will know something is wrong—deciding whether to tell the truth. The problem is deciding what the truth is, and deciding how to say it to her.

Continue reading →

What is the Thing about Isolation?

US UK isolation

The US and the UK are returning to National Isolation. What is the big deal? Why the retreat in fear?

Graham Phoenix, in his political commentary Across The Pond, looks at the reducing role of the USA, from the other side of the Atlantic, as well as considering why the UK is so keen to follow its example. What is the death wish driving these two once great nations?

Continue reading →

Young And Hopeless—I’m Angry At My Father

young hopeless and angry

I know I'm making something out of this life they called nothing. It’s me against this world and I don’t care.

A few years ago I was living in Tilburg, The Netherlands. This is a small town in the middle of the country. The one amazing thing they have is a large pop venue that is a favourite touring venue for punk bands. It is one of the few places in The Netherlands that my son, a punk drummer, has been to. One night I went to see ‘Good Charlotte‘, the US punk band based around the Madden brothers. I had an envigorating, rocking evening, even though I was in my sixties! The song that remains with me from that gig is ‘Young and Hopeless’. It is a personal song that aches with teenage angst and disconnection.

Continue reading →

7 Ways To Have Great Sex With Your Woman

great sex with your woman

Sex is important to men, not just because it is fun, but also because it is a way of establishing a deep connection with women.

Men want sex, but they want the right kind of sex. They do not want the old, macho, sex where they just go for quick pleasure. They do not want to dominate their woman and hope she enjoys herself. They do not want to hope for the best, hope that they get it right, hope their desire is returned. In this age of integrated, mature men it is important to understand a man’s needs, but more importantly, it is important to understand a woman’s needs.

Continue reading →

What is Masculinity? Men, Women and the Future

what is masculinity

Union and polarity between men and women create a world defined by balance. It is a world of power and strength for both.

The more men come to terms with their masculinity, the more the tension seems to grow between men and women. Yet, from my perspective and my experience, this shift should bring us together. The stress and tension between men and women stem from misunderstanding and confusion. It, so often, comes from people seeing the world in terms that are too simplistic. Masculinity varies for each man dependent on personality, family and culture. The common thread is a set of characteristics that allow men to feel masculine.

Continue reading →

A Conversation About Men And Relationships

dr vibe show

Join Dr. Vibe and Sat Purusha as they host the discussion 'Men And Relationships'.

I write about health, spirituality and masculinity. I explore what masculinity means in relation to the rest of men’s lives. I love to talk to others about the issues that face men. Dr Vibe invited me to have a discussion on Men and Relationships, to explore how men react in relationships. This seems to be a problem for men who have a reputation for an inability to commit to long-term relationships. Is this true? Do men avoid women for anything other than sex? What is the truth about men and relationships?

Continue reading →

Love And Anger—Living With Emotional Authenticity

love and anger

How I live with my emotions and what I need to do, moving forward, to remain authentic to my intentions.

Love and Anger are two emotions that are central to how I live my life. On the one hand love is at the core of my emotional responses. It is either the lack of love, the desire for love or the need for love. On the other anger is such a powerful emotion for me, it has dominated my life and caused untold chaos. The desire, or need, for love is easy to confuse with the play of love in my life.

Continue reading →

Executive Order on Immigrants—International Reaction

executive order on immigrants

Political Leaders around the world reacted in strong terms to the closing of the United States Borders to certain immigrants.

These are just some of the international reactions to the President’s recent Executive Order closing down access to the US from citizens of specific Muslim countries. It is important that US citizens understand how this extraordinary situation is being greeted by people outside of the US.

Continue reading →