The Great Gadzoni had just completed a challenging tightrope walk across Niagara Falls. The wind was howling and stinging rain pelted him as he inched across the rope.
Met with enthusiastic applause on the other side the Great Gadzoni was wringing the water from his cape when an excited fan approached, urging him to make a return trip but this time pushing a wheelbarrow, which the fan just happened to have with him.
The Great Gadzoni was hesitant, having barely made the first trip across in the high winds and pouring rain. But the spectator insisted, stating that he knew the Great Gadzoni could do it. “You can do it, I know you can” the fan insisted. The Great Gadzoni thought for a moment. “You really believe I can do it?” “Yes, definitely” the fan responded. “OK said Gadzoni. Get in.”
Have you ever been caught out like this?
When I was younger, working in the theatre, I was caught out by the great theatre director, Tyrone Guthrie.
I had said I would create a stage effect for a production I was a stage manager on. When we came to the all important technical rehearsal with the actors, I had not set it up. When the time for it came, nothing happened, Guthrie stopped the rehearsal, called me out on stage, in front of everyone. “You said you would create this”, he said, “what happened?”
As I started to make excuses he stopped me with a wave of the hand and just looked at me. I stood there and thought quickly, “it will be ready for the next rehearsal, and it will work,” I said. “OK”, he said, “just make it happen”. I learnt a great lesson that day, do what you say you will do, no excuses, no hesitation, just get on with it.
Many years later I still sweat when I think of that story and the lesson it taught me.
- Do you do what you say you will do? Do you follow through?
- Do you do what you want or ask others to do, do you honour what you say to others?
- When, recently, have you not lived up to what you say, not lived up to what you want?
- What one thing could you change that would transform this area of your life?
Other Posts in the series 'Dealing With Chaos'
- 06. Do You Need, Desire Or Love
- 07. Show Me How To Control Others
- 08. Do You Find Intimacy Difficult
- 09. Suffering Is Resistance To Pain
- 10. Look for the Learning in Emotional Pain
- 11. Are You Seeking The Truth?
- 12. Can You Look Forwards And Backwards?
- 13. Do You Blame Or Take Responsibility?
- 14. Are You Aware Of Your Masculinity?
- 15. Enjoy the Dusk, Celebrate the Day
- 16. Dealing With Chaos - Acceptance
- 17. Do You Accept Your Personalities?
- 18. What Do You Like About Yourself?
- 19. What Don’t You Like About Yourself?
- 20. What Would You Like To Change?
- 21. What Are You Willing To Do To Change?
- 22. Describe The Ideal You, The New You
- 23. How Will You Achieve Change?
- 24. Is Your Life A Construction Site Or A Garden?
- 25. How To Live With Uncertainty
- 26. Can You Let Go Of Your Ego?
- 27. Can You Now Accept Who You Are?
- 28. Enjoying The Person You Are
- 29. Celebrate Who You Are - Be Outrageous!
- 30. Dealing With Chaos - Authenticity
- 31. Do You Live Your Life At Full Potential?
- 32. What Vision Do You Have?
- 34. What Are Your Spheres Of Influence?
- 35. How Do You Use Your Sexuality?
- 36. How Are You And Your Family?
- 37. How Do You Use Your Power And Strength?
- 38. Can Others Rely On You?
- 39. What Are You Dishonest About?
- 40. What Will You Stake Your Life On?
- 41. What Is Passion? What Drives You?
- 42. Do You Know Your Truth? Do You Speak It?
- 43. What Will Life Look Like Now?
- 44. Dealing With Chaos - Participants Open Their Hearts
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