A couple of weeks ago you experienced an emotional dawn where you looked forward to the journey of discovery that lay ahead of you. This was to be a journey where you connected more with yourself and started to understand your core.
No matter where you have reached on that journey this is an appropriate time to stop and just appreciate where you are and who you are. Maybe you have learned things about yourself that may have surprised you. Maybe you have confirmed what you already know. Wherever you are it is important to celebrate what you have achieved and rest in the knowledge that change is already happening.
You may have found that all is not how you would like it to be, that’s OK, it’s important that you go through this phase. There is plenty of time to work on this, for now, just enjoy yourself.
When I started attending personal development seminars one of the great discoveries I made was the concept of the gap. The gap is the space between where you are and where you want to be.
One of the critical aspects of this is understanding where you are. This may sound easy but, for me, it proved not to be. I was so focused on who I wanted to be that I didn’t really understand who I was. I just wanted to rush forward and create a new life but I didn’t understand that this didn’t work in isolation.
I stopped to assess what I had done in life and how I had behaved. From there I came to understand the forces in my life that had helped to shape me. More important than that was the fact that I began to understand how I had used those forces to create who I was. It was the choices I made not the forces that were important.
Understanding myself I could see the gap ahead of me and I was ready to jump it.
- What have you discovered about yourself so far in during this journey?
- Have these discoveries shifted anything in your awareness?
- How would you like to see yourself?
- What’s the gap, what do you have to do to get from where you are to where you would like to be?
Other Posts in the series 'Dealing With Chaos'
- 06. Do You Need, Desire Or Love
- 07. Show Me How To Control Others
- 08. Do You Find Intimacy Difficult
- 09. Suffering Is Resistance To Pain
- 10. Look for the Learning in Emotional Pain
- 11. Are You Seeking The Truth?
- 12. Can You Look Forwards And Backwards?
- 13. Do You Blame Or Take Responsibility?
- 14. Are You Aware Of Your Masculinity?
- 16. Dealing With Chaos - Acceptance
- 17. Do You Accept Your Personalities?
- 18. What Do You Like About Yourself?
- 19. What Don’t You Like About Yourself?
- 20. What Would You Like To Change?
- 21. What Are You Willing To Do To Change?
- 22. Describe The Ideal You, The New You
- 23. How Will You Achieve Change?
- 24. Is Your Life A Construction Site Or A Garden?
- 25. How To Live With Uncertainty
- 26. Can You Let Go Of Your Ego?
- 27. Can You Now Accept Who You Are?
- 28. Enjoying The Person You Are
- 29. Celebrate Who You Are - Be Outrageous!
- 30. Dealing With Chaos - Authenticity
- 31. Do You Live Your Life At Full Potential?
- 32. What Vision Do You Have?
- 33. Do You Walk Your Talk?
- 34. What Are Your Spheres Of Influence?
- 35. How Do You Use Your Sexuality?
- 36. How Are You And Your Family?
- 37. How Do You Use Your Power And Strength?
- 38. Can Others Rely On You?
- 39. What Are You Dishonest About?
- 40. What Will You Stake Your Life On?
- 41. What Is Passion? What Drives You?
- 42. Do You Know Your Truth? Do You Speak It?
- 43. What Will Life Look Like Now?
- 44. Dealing With Chaos - Participants Open Their Hearts
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