Today we start the final and most interesting stage of our journey together, the stage of authenticity.
This is where you move outside yourself and look at how you relate with other people. Even when you develop full awareness of ourself, even when you fully accept yourself you can have issues with how you portray yourself with other people.
The intention should be to be yourself so deeply that there is no difference between how you are to yourself and how you are with others. All masks disappear and you are free to enjoy yourself without fear of what others might think or how others might react.
You need to live the life you identify with openly and honestly. This tests the depth of your awareness and acceptance because it relies on you shaping your life to your ideas. It requires you to examine your life, again, in a different way. How do you act, how do you behave? What is your truth?
(Barbara de Angelis)
There was a period in my life, when I lived in Edinburgh, when I was keen to be accepted by a group or people I worked with. I had moved my family north and I had no other connections in the city. To achieve this, outside of work, I felt I had to go drinking on a Friday night. The drinking went on late and, although it was fun, I always had too much.
In doing this I wasn’t true to me or my family. My body couldn’t take the amount of alcohol and mostly my weekends were ruined. I hated this and my family hated this. Yet I carried on indulging to gain connection with my colleagues.
Eventually I came to a decision to stop and start living the life I wanted to live. It wasn’t necessary to turn my back on my colleagues at work, I just decided to be myself outside of work.
I lived the life I wanted to live and accepted responsibility for my actions.
Other Posts in the series 'Dealing With Chaos'
- 06. Do You Need, Desire Or Love
- 07. Show Me How To Control Others
- 08. Do You Find Intimacy Difficult
- 09. Suffering Is Resistance To Pain
- 10. Look for the Learning in Emotional Pain
- 11. Are You Seeking The Truth?
- 12. Can You Look Forwards And Backwards?
- 13. Do You Blame Or Take Responsibility?
- 14. Are You Aware Of Your Masculinity?
- 15. Enjoy the Dusk, Celebrate the Day
- 16. Dealing With Chaos - Acceptance
- 17. Do You Accept Your Personalities?
- 18. What Do You Like About Yourself?
- 19. What Don’t You Like About Yourself?
- 20. What Would You Like To Change?
- 21. What Are You Willing To Do To Change?
- 22. Describe The Ideal You, The New You
- 23. How Will You Achieve Change?
- 24. Is Your Life A Construction Site Or A Garden?
- 25. How To Live With Uncertainty
- 26. Can You Let Go Of Your Ego?
- 27. Can You Now Accept Who You Are?
- 28. Enjoying The Person You Are
- 29. Celebrate Who You Are - Be Outrageous!
- 31. Do You Live Your Life At Full Potential?
- 32. What Vision Do You Have?
- 33. Do You Walk Your Talk?
- 34. What Are Your Spheres Of Influence?
- 35. How Do You Use Your Sexuality?
- 36. How Are You And Your Family?
- 37. How Do You Use Your Power And Strength?
- 38. Can Others Rely On You?
- 39. What Are You Dishonest About?
- 40. What Will You Stake Your Life On?
- 41. What Is Passion? What Drives You?
- 42. Do You Know Your Truth? Do You Speak It?
- 43. What Will Life Look Like Now?
- 44. Dealing With Chaos - Participants Open Their Hearts
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