Acceptance is important, indeed critical in developing your confidence and certainty. For a truly amazing life you need to go beyond that and enjoy who you are.
I find it interesting to see how many people don’t enjoy their life. This is particularly true for men who are focused and dedicated to the life they lead. They have found success and gained a reputation but they just can’t find a way to enjoy it.
They feel a responsibility to keep achieving, creating and succeeding and don’t quite understand why they have to do it. They hanker after a quiet life in the country but feel that in pursuing that they would be letting others down.
In truth they are letting themselves down by not doing what the enjoy. They are seeing where they are now as necessary but no fun, what a shame.
(Maharishi Mahesh Yogi)
I am now at a stage in life where I thoroughly enjoy who I am.
I used to be nervous about contacting and relating to others because I feared how they would see me. I spent sometime as a salesman and I completely sucked at it because I was so conscious of what others might think of me. I was so afraid that they would see behind the mask and find out what I was really like inside.
When I was eventually able to understand what was going on and I was able to work on this issue my whole attitude changed. I decided to drop the mask and be the same with everyone in all areas of my life. I felt liberated and I let go of fear. I became more rebellious and certainly more fun. I found a way to enjoy life and show people that I did.
I let go of my career of 40 years and started to do what I love, writing. I created a new life for myself, a life based on enjoyment as well as success. Perversely I can now focus on making money at what I do because I have nothing to hide.
- Do you enjoy life? Do you show that you enjoy life? Do people see that you enjoy life?
- How aware are you of what others think of you, how others see you? Does it matter to you?
- Do you have any masks that hide what you feel about yourself?
- What is stopping you from enjoying life even more? What do you enjoy most about your life?
Other Posts in the series 'Dealing With Chaos'
- 06. Do You Need, Desire Or Love
- 07. Show Me How To Control Others
- 08. Do You Find Intimacy Difficult
- 09. Suffering Is Resistance To Pain
- 10. Look for the Learning in Emotional Pain
- 11. Are You Seeking The Truth?
- 12. Can You Look Forwards And Backwards?
- 13. Do You Blame Or Take Responsibility?
- 14. Are You Aware Of Your Masculinity?
- 15. Enjoy the Dusk, Celebrate the Day
- 16. Dealing With Chaos - Acceptance
- 17. Do You Accept Your Personalities?
- 18. What Do You Like About Yourself?
- 19. What Don’t You Like About Yourself?
- 20. What Would You Like To Change?
- 21. What Are You Willing To Do To Change?
- 22. Describe The Ideal You, The New You
- 23. How Will You Achieve Change?
- 24. Is Your Life A Construction Site Or A Garden?
- 25. How To Live With Uncertainty
- 26. Can You Let Go Of Your Ego?
- 27. Can You Now Accept Who You Are?
- 29. Celebrate Who You Are - Be Outrageous!
- 30. Dealing With Chaos - Authenticity
- 31. Do You Live Your Life At Full Potential?
- 32. What Vision Do You Have?
- 33. Do You Walk Your Talk?
- 34. What Are Your Spheres Of Influence?
- 35. How Do You Use Your Sexuality?
- 36. How Are You And Your Family?
- 37. How Do You Use Your Power And Strength?
- 38. Can Others Rely On You?
- 39. What Are You Dishonest About?
- 40. What Will You Stake Your Life On?
- 41. What Is Passion? What Drives You?
- 42. Do You Know Your Truth? Do You Speak It?
- 43. What Will Life Look Like Now?
- 44. Dealing With Chaos - Participants Open Their Hearts
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