Dishonesty of one sort or another is so rife that it is scarcely noticed. I am not talking of the major stuff that we all abhor but the minor everyday things that we brush off.
They start with speeding, minor tax issues and they end up in matters of personal integrity affecting our relationships with others. How often do you ‘withhold’ the truth from your partner to save them getting upset?
Honesty cannot be relative to be effective; honesty cannot be bargained with. If you stand on your honesty with others then others can trust you and believe what you say. To do this you have stand on every aspect of your honesty. This is not an easy position to take, it takes rigourous adherence to principals that not many people accept.
Ultimately, though, there is no substitute for honesty. There are no half measures. You are either honest or you are not honest.
history has no place for them.”
I cannot say that I am totally honest.
Like most people I like to think that I am an honest person but there are areas of my life where I have bent the truth for apparently honest reasons. In earlier years I thought nothing of lying about what I could do to get a job. My principle was that as long as it was something I knew I could do then it was ok. I have hidden the truth from the tax authorities and other public bodies to save a bit of money.
This is not acceptable but I have to accept that I have done it. I can see that I do it almost without noticing and thereby I seem to find it acceptable. I feel uncomfortable about completely cutting this out of my life; I feel concerned about how far reaching the effect of this could be. This is definitely something I still need to work on.
I know that this is not the way to inspire others, it’s just being honest about who I am.
- How honest have you been in your life? Do you really know the extent to which dishonesty has been part of your life?
- How honest do you think you should be? Do you think there is an acceptable level of dishonesty?
- What is the gap between these two? Is this gap bridgeable, is it acceptable?
- What can you do to change this situation? What would you like to do?
Other Posts in the series 'Dealing With Chaos'
- 06. Do You Need, Desire Or Love
- 07. Show Me How To Control Others
- 08. Do You Find Intimacy Difficult
- 09. Suffering Is Resistance To Pain
- 10. Look for the Learning in Emotional Pain
- 11. Are You Seeking The Truth?
- 12. Can You Look Forwards And Backwards?
- 13. Do You Blame Or Take Responsibility?
- 14. Are You Aware Of Your Masculinity?
- 15. Enjoy the Dusk, Celebrate the Day
- 16. Dealing With Chaos - Acceptance
- 17. Do You Accept Your Personalities?
- 18. What Do You Like About Yourself?
- 19. What Don’t You Like About Yourself?
- 20. What Would You Like To Change?
- 21. What Are You Willing To Do To Change?
- 22. Describe The Ideal You, The New You
- 23. How Will You Achieve Change?
- 24. Is Your Life A Construction Site Or A Garden?
- 25. How To Live With Uncertainty
- 26. Can You Let Go Of Your Ego?
- 27. Can You Now Accept Who You Are?
- 28. Enjoying The Person You Are
- 29. Celebrate Who You Are - Be Outrageous!
- 30. Dealing With Chaos - Authenticity
- 31. Do You Live Your Life At Full Potential?
- 32. What Vision Do You Have?
- 33. Do You Walk Your Talk?
- 34. What Are Your Spheres Of Influence?
- 35. How Do You Use Your Sexuality?
- 36. How Are You And Your Family?
- 37. How Do You Use Your Power And Strength?
- 38. Can Others Rely On You?
- 40. What Will You Stake Your Life On?
- 41. What Is Passion? What Drives You?
- 42. Do You Know Your Truth? Do You Speak It?
- 43. What Will Life Look Like Now?
- 44. Dealing With Chaos - Participants Open Their Hearts
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