Perhaps, yesterday, you came to accept all the parts of your personality, all your personalities, but does that mean you like everything about yourself?
Liking yourself is a very personal thing. You are always with yourself, you can never get away. If you don’t like yourself, or all of yourself, you could have a miserable life.
What you like about yourself will define what you like about other people. Maybe you don’t like other people, that’s a sure sign you have issues with yourself. To clarify your view of the world, and your view of others, it’s helpful to know what you do like about yourself. Coming to terms with this can open up your relationships.
This is different from the need to love yourself. Love is blind, they say. Love is not judgmental, love accepts people as they are. To like yourself it is necessary to judge yourself, to work out the good and the rest. Take care and go gently with this.
and liking how you do it.”
When I was young there was a period when I didn’t like much about myself.
I didn’t think I had much to offer other people and I didn’t think I was much use to the world. I found that I had little connection with other people, I was shy and reserved. I didn’t think I was at all interesting, so I didn’t feel I had anything to say to others. When people were friends with me, I wasn’t really sure why.
n the course of time this disappeared as I slowly developed my relationships with others. This happened as I started to like parts of myself. I started to appreciate my humour, my ability to understand and talk about complex concepts and my passion for what interested me. As I appreciated more of myself I became a more rounded and interesting person.
As I grew to like myself more I grew to enjoy what I did and enjoy the relationships that grew up around me.
- Have you thought about how much you like yourself? Have you ever carried out an inventory of your qualities and attributes?
- What do you like about yourself? What qualities do you have that you think are impressive or enjoyable?
- How do you capitalise on these qualities, how do you develop them? Do you exploit them in your dealing with other people.
- What other qualities could you develop to increase how much you like about yourself? how could you take this subject a lot further?
Other Posts in the series 'Dealing With Chaos'
- 06. Do You Need, Desire Or Love
- 07. Show Me How To Control Others
- 08. Do You Find Intimacy Difficult
- 09. Suffering Is Resistance To Pain
- 10. Look for the Learning in Emotional Pain
- 11. Are You Seeking The Truth?
- 12. Can You Look Forwards And Backwards?
- 13. Do You Blame Or Take Responsibility?
- 14. Are You Aware Of Your Masculinity?
- 15. Enjoy the Dusk, Celebrate the Day
- 16. Dealing With Chaos - Acceptance
- 17. Do You Accept Your Personalities?
- 19. What Don’t You Like About Yourself?
- 20. What Would You Like To Change?
- 21. What Are You Willing To Do To Change?
- 22. Describe The Ideal You, The New You
- 23. How Will You Achieve Change?
- 24. Is Your Life A Construction Site Or A Garden?
- 25. How To Live With Uncertainty
- 26. Can You Let Go Of Your Ego?
- 27. Can You Now Accept Who You Are?
- 28. Enjoying The Person You Are
- 29. Celebrate Who You Are - Be Outrageous!
- 30. Dealing With Chaos - Authenticity
- 31. Do You Live Your Life At Full Potential?
- 32. What Vision Do You Have?
- 33. Do You Walk Your Talk?
- 34. What Are Your Spheres Of Influence?
- 35. How Do You Use Your Sexuality?
- 36. How Are You And Your Family?
- 37. How Do You Use Your Power And Strength?
- 38. Can Others Rely On You?
- 39. What Are You Dishonest About?
- 40. What Will You Stake Your Life On?
- 41. What Is Passion? What Drives You?
- 42. Do You Know Your Truth? Do You Speak It?
- 43. What Will Life Look Like Now?
- 44. Dealing With Chaos - Participants Open Their Hearts
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