I was going to call this piece ‘Don’t Give Up The Day Job’. I wanted to warn aspiring entrepreneurs against jumping in to their new business too quickly. It seems so easy to jump online, put up a website and talk to the world about what you love. It might be football, travel, sex or anything else your mind can conjure up. Well, it is easy! You can make a decision, get online and be up and running in a day.
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I would like to suggest a way to look at your life that will help you understand why you are here and what your purpose is.
Like many in Europe, I am cheering on the people who are changing the face of their country through their own personal power. I am cheering for the individual who has made an enormous fortune through the success of his entrepreneurship. Finally I am cheering on the end of the old guard who thought that, today, they could still rule by force and domination.
I have been changing my life recently. I have been going through a process of identifying what serves me in life and what doesn’t. I will be writing more on the details of this transformation in a future post, but now I want to outline a simple set of principles that I have adopted to frame how I live.
My first real experience of a mindset for success was from Tony Robbins. He teaches a simple approach to mindset called ‘The Triad’. ‘The Triad’ is the combination of three elements; focus, language and physiology. Tony teaches that any state you are in, whether happy or sad, excited or depressed, or any other, is caused by the triad you are in. Your state is created by your physiology, focus and language.
A Spiritual Warrior embraces noble personal attributes and strengths, he is someone who masters himself, overcomes personal desire, moral issues, and all weaknesses of character. He is someone who embraces a journey of self discovery so he can inspire others as well as enlighten himself.
Some years ago I ran a company along with a business partner. He had founded the company years before and he was proud of what he had achieved. I put money into the company and trusted what he told me. I did not look too deep because I was proud of what the company did and flattered to be asked to join as a director.
I believe that Facebook is a place for public debate. It’s an open forum where we exchange views. As long as the person isn’t openly threatening, I have always felt that everyone has a right to respond, comment and have their say.
I was recently involved in a discussion where I disagreed with people’s desire to unfriend or block people who were simply rude. I love arguing; to a point. I love the process of debate. I think that’s how we evolve our society. I think that’s how we negotiate our way through the minefield of modern society.
Yet, today, I unfriended someone and removed their contribution to the debate we were having. What’s interesting is that person is an actual friend of mine, not just a Facebook friend. That person is someone I have respected and whose company I have enjoyed.
I let the past go with all its issues and tensions and put the future on hold with all its risk and uncertainty. In this moment I concentrate and discover how to be the very best I can be, how to be the person I really am. When I have a strong focus my experience is deep. When I am totally in this present moment then nothing else matters, nothing else can intrude. I am me, deep down inside, I am all I am meant to be, inside and outside.
Being dominating and using mental and emotional abuse is as bad as being physically abusive.
I was in Glasgow with my parents on our annual trip back to Scotland to visit family. I must have been in my early teens. I went off for the day to explore the city on my own. I’ve always enjoyed walking around new and strange cities. My love of steam trains (they still existed then) took me to St Enoch Station.
Standing on the steps looking at my map and wondering where to go next, I was approached by a man seeking to help me.
I was the typical innocent abroad and trusted this man. We started talking and he offered to buy me a coffee in the station cafe. I accepted.
We sat in a quiet corner and at one point he gently took my hand and laid it on his leg. I realised my hand was on his erect penis. I was horrified and only then realised why this man was so helpful. I got away as quick as I could.
Although nothing serious happened to me this experience has remained with me for 50 years now. Continue reading →