What Causes Men To Change – Is It Women Who Drive Them?

It is women who cause men to change. It is women who cause men to really see themselves. It is women who cause men to be great.

I have been talking to a group of men and women in the last few days about how to get men engaged in their own advancement, in their own future. I was told that men need it and women want it.

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Why Do Men Cheat – The Dirty Lowdown Of The Affair

Women seem to talk constantly about why men cheat. There is a perception that men cheat all the time, is this true? It creates an impression that men are not to be trusted, do you find this?

When both men and women are asked why do men cheat, the immediate responses are often,

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Love Is Not Arousal

I’d argue that perhaps the only thing that garners more suspicion than a father being affectionate with his daughter, is a father being affectionate with his son!

I read this recently from a commenter on GMP and was amazed. I wondered if I lived on the same planet as this man or whether I have ignored what people think all these years.

I am a man and I have two sons who are now in their thirties. They are perfectly normal, well-adjusted men and we hug and kiss in public. This is not some overt display of family emotion: it’s just something we do. Am I supposed to worry about this, about what people might feel? Am I supposed to feel guilty and see the finger of suspicion pointing at me?

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The Vital Spark Of Polarity In Relationships

Polarity creates energy and intimate relationships are about energy.

Gary Stamper in “Beyond Integral”, who knows a thing or two about relationships, has recently written on the importance of polarity in relationships. He said,

I have a friend who doesn’t get the importance of sexual polarity in a relationship. He loves that they are in a balanced relationship, each holding equal parts of the masculine and feminine. I guess it works for them, but for me it would like pushing two north poles of magnets together, repelling each other. They are great friends, but not intimate. It’s definitely safe, but certainly not passionate. They are great roommates. I am happy for them, but it’s not what I want in an intimate relationship. it feels flat to me. The masculine and feminine are like two magnets, and the principle of polarity also applies to intimate relationships: if you put their north and south poles together, they attract each other.

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Great Relationships – Don’t Faint When I Say Men Can Create Them

For me great relationships are part of what makes life tick, so when I became a single man, after a long marriage, I started dating again. The prospect of a new relationship terrified and fascinated me.

I< found I was an expert in one relationship but an innocent as far as women were concerned. What could I do? How could I learn about women and great relationships?

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Sexual Polarity – Is It Necessary?

I was sitting in the foyer of the hotel waiting for her. Thinking about what had been happening between us, I felt good.

It was the end of the day. Things were moving on, we were spending time together. I was looking for something from her to encourage what I felt. She came, there was just no polarity between us, she felt, no electricity, no excitement…

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Healing A Relationship – Use The Male 180

Several years ago a concept was introduced to the world of infidelity that is designed to help partners move forward in the healing of a relationship.

It is not designed to make you look good or your partner bad. It is a means of protection for the betrayed. It helps the betrayed to face their new world with dignity and bravery. It was suggested that any new betrayed partner implement these behaviours. They weren’t designed to make either side look good or bad. They were a means of protection for the betrayed. They helped the betrayed to face their new world with dignity and bravery, they appear stronger to the wayward partner.

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Sex and Control – Understand Your Dark Energy

Wow... It gives me goosebumps just thinking about sex.… It's such an important subject. We really need to get it right, men. So much hangs on this, so much flows from the balance between sex and control.

I was privileged to hear a conversation in which one woman was telling another that she was upset that her man had just broken up with her. The reason he gave up was that she kept taking control during sex. He said he couldn’t take it any more, the fact that she controls him.

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