My first real experience of a mindset for success was from Tony Robbins. He teaches a simple approach to mindset called ‘The Triad’. ‘The Triad’ is the combination of three elements; focus, language and physiology. Tony teaches that any state you are in, whether happy or sad, excited or depressed, or any other, is caused by the triad you are in. Your state is created by your physiology, focus and language.
If you change any one of those you will change the state you are in.
So if you want to change how you feel you can simply start moving (your physiology), shift what you are thinking about (your focus) or change how you talk about what is happening (your language).
This seemed clear to me and I was able to prove to myself that what he was saying was true.
What is a Mindset for Success
I found, however, that it just did not seem to work with some people. They would understand it intellectually, but were unable to put it into practice. No matter what effort they put into it they stayed the same depressed/sad/unsuccessful person.
There seemed to be something else going on inside their head. It turns out that this is where the type of mindset a person has comes into play.
Carol Dweck, found, through experiments, that people generally have one of two mindsets. Which mindset a person has governs whether they can improve themselves or not.
The simple difference is that a person’s ability is unimportant in whether they are capable of improving themselves or not. What is critical is whether they believe that ability is a given part of their make-up or whether they believe that ability can be learned and improved.
If you have a fixed mindset you believe that your talent is an inherent part of you. You believe that you are born with a set of qualities and abilities and that your task is to discover what they are and work with them. You believe that success comes from the talent you have, not from the effort you put in.
On the other hand if you have a growth mindset you believe that talent, or ability, is just a starting point for the growth you can create in yourself. Hard work and effort can transform you so you love learning and have an ability to consistently improve what you can do.
A mindset is, therefore, just a set of beliefs about what you are capable of as a person. A mindset for success is a set of beliefs around your attitude to your ability to be successful. Do you believe that you can change or grow, or do you believe that your nature is fixed and that you should just accept your lot in life?
There are two kinds of people. One kind, you can just tell by looking at them at what point they congealed into their final selves. It might be a very nice self, but you know you can expect no more surpises from it. Whereas, the other kind keep moving, changing… They are fluid. They keep moving forward and making new trysts with life, and the motion of it keeps them young. In my opinion, they are the only people who are still alive. You must be constantly on your guard against congealing.
This brings the discussion back to the starting point. What you achieve is dependent on what you believe. You can change what you believe, but, it seems, only if you believe it is possible. Changing your triad only works if you accept that it will!
But always remember you can only achieve what you believe you can achieve!
The conundrum is how to encourage fixed mindset people that they can change, that they can be successful. They might believe that change would improve their life, but if they don’t feel they can go there.
In my view it is necessary to work back to when and why they created that belief and to demolish it by changing their view on what happened to them at that time. I have found that people usually build up this type of belief as a result of something they were taught in the past. The trick is to change that teaching and allow their unconscious to let go the old belief.