Sex and Control – Understand Your Dark Energy

Wow... It gives me goosebumps just thinking about sex.… It's such an important subject. We really need to get it right, men. So much hangs on this, so much flows from the balance between sex and control.

I was privileged to hear a conversation in which one woman was telling another that she was upset that her man had just broken up with her. The reason he gave up was that she kept taking control during sex. He said he couldn’t take it any more, the fact that she controls him.

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Women Need Attention All The Time – So Questions, Questions

Women need attention all the time! How do I know? There are the questions and the questions...

I am awake early, she is still asleep. I get up, avoiding waking her. Start writing. All’s quiet, time to get into my flow. She wakes, comes out all sleepy-eyed, says good morning, gives me hug. I tell her about what I am doing and carry on.

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Female Goddess – How do You Keep it Fresh with One?

No, not by keeping her in the fridge, you want it hot not cold! She is a Female Goddess!

I was talking about my relationship to a female friend, talking about men, but she did not understand how to keep an exciting relationship at its initial level over time. My answer was simple, “You need to start afresh every day”. “But how do you do that?” she said. That, of course, is where the simplicity ends.

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Trust In Relationships – How I Found It

Urmila and I carried out an experiment on Trust In Relationships. She wanted to fully experience the two feminine characteristics of Trusting and Surrendering.

Here I want to look at my perspective and talk about what it meant for me to fully experience trust and surrender from a woman. What are trust relationships?

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Energy of the Universe – Does it Transform Us?

Nelson Mandela's presence is an example to men everywhere. His focus and dedication in the face of his incarceration seems almost super-human. Men, when they 'get it' can be amazingly powerful, but how do they get there?

Is sexual polarity the spark that brings men and women together, that catches the energy of the universe, if so how and why?

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The Courage To Change – To Feel Love – To Feel Important

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When we first met you were crazy about her. You couldn't stop talking about her. You wanted so much to be with her, all the time, but you couldn't make it work. You needed her to show you the way. But it never happened, it fell apart. What do you want now...

I wonder, “What do you want in life?” When we first met you were crazy about her. You couldn’t stop talking about her.

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How Bubbles The Stupid Dog Is Inspiring

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Bubbles is a Spanish Water Dog. Her favourite game is to chase balls that you throw for her. How is that inspiring?

She places the ball at your feet and stands waiting for you to throw it. All the time she is focused on you, gazing expectantly into your eyes. You throw the ball and she hares after it, brings it back and the whole process starts again.

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In A Relationship – Pleading Does Not Hack It

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At dinner I was discussing men with with two ladies and whether love in a relationship is enough.

We were sitting in a small Indian cafe in Little India in Singapore. My partner and I were talking about our relationship, how strong it is and what shifts we had to make to allow it to happen.

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How To Attract Women or What puts Women off Men?

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At a recent seminar the focus was on personal development and success. There was a greater percentage of women than men. So here was a perfect opportunity for men to show themselves in their strength, but did they...

I was recently at a weekend seminar involving games play. the focus was on building confidence and certainty in developing businesses and business ideas.

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Kali and Tantra – Lessons for Men

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In Tantra one thing has had a powerful effect on me, the special relationship between men and women. The story of Kali draws powerful lessons for men from this. I will explore this using the words of women...

Kali and Tantra are closely linked. One of the aspects of Tantra that has had a powerful effect on me has been its special relationship between men and women. It treats men and women as gods and goddesses to revere and worship. This is a powerful starting point from which to understand yourself as a man.

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