How Yoga Helped Me Find The Stillness In Masculinity

yoga and stillness in masculinity

I have found that Yoga has enabled me to balance my personality and find my 'Still Point'. I use it to observe myself and deepen my masculinity with compassion, awareness and understanding. It has transformed me into a man who is both more alive and calmer.

My local Yoga Studio started a Men’s Yoga Class. It was mostly men who were new to Yoga and who struggled with the postures. Men tend to be strong but stiff, we tend to be overweight and are not used to exploring this in the company of others. We were a far cry from the nimble women you see in the Yoga books, but we struggled on, taking care of our damaged joints. We stretched and still appeared to be immobile. I loved that my body started moving again.

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The 5 Principles Of Power – How To Achieve Radical Transformation

Do you live a life of inner power? Do you live life by a guiding set of principles? Or is you life just random and unfocused?

I have been changing my life recently. I have been going through a process of identifying what serves me in life and what doesn’t. I will be writing more on the details of this transformation in a future post, but now I want to outline a simple set of principles that I have adopted to frame how I live.

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Walls Are Ambiguous, Two-Faced – Just Like The Boundaries We Set

I was trying to exert control over others to force them to do my will. I had no real control over myself, as I discovered over the following years of struggle with my anger.

I realised later in life that you can only control yourself. To lead others you need to be seen to be in control of yourself, then others will respect you and follow you.

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What Causes Men To Change – Is It Women Who Drive Them?

It is women who cause men to change. It is women who cause men to really see themselves. It is women who cause men to be great.

I have been talking to a group of men and women in the last few days about how to get men engaged in their own advancement, in their own future. I was told that men need it and women want it.

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Mens Movement: ‘Awakening The New Masculine’

'Awakening The New Masculine' is a new book by Gary Stamper.

It focuses on The Path Of The Integral Warrior and is called a psychospiritual journey for men. It lays out his view of what men should aspire to based on his Integral Warrior workshops, as part of the mens movement.

It’s a brave attempt by Gary to outline a new paradigm for masculinity and provide a path for the mens movement to follow. It succeeds in outlining a spiritual path for men who are already on this type of journey, men who have already entered the castle of their own spirituality, but it fails to address what the new masculine means for ordinary men. It fails to account for the issues men face in the world of work and relationships and it fails to describe an accessible new masculine.

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Understanding Men – The Science And The Emotion

Men Are Easy To Understand!

Understanding men is easy, some would argue: you just have to know what men want, that’s all. Why do so many men feel confused about themselves, then? Why is it that most men couldn’t tell you what they want or who they are?

Men are considered to be far less complex than women. A large factor in this is the way their brains are organised. The male brain is compartmentalised: every part works independent of the other. Specific behaviour that has been labelled as masculine results from this, for example being able to do only one thing at a time, or putting focus onto something else as a way letting go, or being in the mood for – and ready for – sex in a matter of seconds.

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6 Lessons on How to live a Great Life

For all those men who are wondering how to live and love.

There is a lot of pressure on men from all sides, pressure to justify, pressure to perform. The answer is simple, let the intellectuals and the activists argue about the state of men and look at yourself and how you live.

Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyse you, they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.
—Bernice Johnson Reagon

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How to Love a Man — 10 Steps for Women

I rise to the challenge of supporting women, so here is the lowdown.

A month ago I wrote a popular post about ‘How To Love A Woman – 10 Ways A Man Can Love‘ with my recommendations to men on how to love their woman. In it I said,

How often do you hear men say, “My wife doesn’t understand me.” What they really mean is, “I don’t understand my wife.

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Men of Action Make The World Go Round

Or are Men of Action dinosaurs who cause chaos wherever they go?

A recent email from a friend let loose about talk and inaction. It made me stop and think about what a man is at his core and question whether there are there common qualities in men. I’m not talking about the media view of men but a personal view based on experience and knowledge.

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