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Masculine Characteristics – A New Approach

The way for us to move forward as men is to develop our own norms based on our core masculine characteristics and our response to cultural conditioning not based on the dominant cultural norms; that is create our own personal masculinity.

What is this masculinity? What are the core masculine qualities? How can we create it? As men we are brought up more by our mothers than our fathers and at a certain point in our childhood we are faced with moving away from the feminine perspective to develop our own approach to the world, our masculinity.

This move away from the feminine was achieved in tribal societies through initiation and ceremony. In modern society we have lost this blunting our access to our masculine characteristics and making the shift more problematic and painful. The lack of involvement of fathers in this process makes the situation worse.

The result is increasing conflict between men and women because men either fail to make the transition or they over-compensate and dominate women. Continue reading →

Gender Stereotyping – Why?

What is really worrying in the general debate on masculinity and femininity is that people see gender identity as a battle ground.

It is similar to the stagnation of the First World War and its trenches filled with soldiers facing each other and dying for a forgotten principle. There is no point to it and no-one wins.

We face this stagnation in everyday life, The Battle of the Sexes. What are men and women, why all the strife between them? Continue reading →

Male Rituals And The Forging Of Masculinity

Saturday was Queens Day in Holland. It was a time when everything goes orange and everyone has fun, it was a time I experienced male rituals in the small town of Eemnes through Tonnetje Steken.

What I loved was not just that people had fun but that they had fun with family and friends in their town. People were enjoying themselves because they knew the people they were spending time with and they enjoyed making fools of themselves.

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Mountain Challenge for Men – Who Needs Them

If I step outside the door at the house in Andalucia, Spain, and look to the right I see a ridge of three peaks. The one on the left is the highest at 888 metres. It's a simple, gentle peak over some rough country. A mountain challenge all the same.

It is not a big deal, but I do love climbing it every three months or so.

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Masculinity Characteristics—Are They Nurture Or Nature?

When I first started thinking about my masculinity I was confused, no not in that way but from the perspective of understanding all the different approaches put forward.

There are alpha males, daddy bloggers, men’s rights activists, male feminists, PUA’s, football fans, and many others. Was I supposed to take sides? Was I supposed to take on a new identity? What was the right way? Was there a right way?

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I Believe in Masculine Men – I Believe in Our Essence

I believe that as men we are all born with an in-built masculine essence, we are all masculine men.

The basic energy that drives us from deep inside. It is the energy that determines the way we feel, and what makes us happy. I believed in men with male energy.

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Understand Women – Nothing To Do With Me

How can we understand women? How can we know what they are feeling? Men wonder how to get into the soul of their woman, wonder how to get close.

This morning she said to me, “I feel angry, sad, lost and alone. I can feel you, but I can’t feel you.” What did that mean? How do I deal with that? What do I do? I can guess what it’s about but it seems an extraordinary over reaction, or is it? How can I understand women?

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