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Love And Anger—Living With Emotional Authenticity

How I live with my emotions and what I need to do, moving forward, to remain authentic to my intentions.

Love and Anger are two emotions that are central to how I live my life. On the one hand love is at the core of my emotional responses. It is either the lack of love, the desire for love or the need for love. On the other anger is such a powerful emotion for me, it has dominated my life and caused untold chaos. The desire, or need, for love is easy to confuse with the play of love in my life.

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Four Ways Of Changing Your View Of Reality That Will Improve Your Life

You see the world through the filter of your perceptions and so when you change your perceptions the world will change around you.

The idea that you create your own reality is one that comes from beyond the new-age love of the law of attraction. In yoga philosophy, it is not said that you create your reality but that you create your experience of reality. This is a crucial distinction that is worth exploring. The way you view the world around you reveals the filter through which you see the world. You have created this filter through your reactions to the various life events that you have lived through.

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The Day Christmas Died

Christmas is a time for family celebrations until it becomes a weapon in a family battle.

It was Christmas Eve. She stayed in bed. She would not get up, no matter how hard he persuaded her. Her demons were with her, crowding her mind. They would not let her go; she would not let them go.

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Football is a Man’s Game Where Sexual Abuse of Boys by Men is Common

A new scandal in Britain has highlighted the extent of sexual abuse of boys in the game.

I have never been a fan of football in the UK. It has, for me, been too closely associated with racism and violence. Football (or soccer as it is called in the US) is a man’s game in the world outside the US. It brings men together and creates an atmosphere where they can bond and experience the rituals of battle in a safe atmosphere. It has been accepted as an essential part of British and European male culture.

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Surrendering To Masculine Energy

Why do you need to surrender to masculine energy? There’s no denying it; the masculine energy is intense. In fact, masculine energy is sometimes scary, from a woman’s perspective. Of course, I won’t neglect to acknowledge that many modern women won’t relate to this notion. Some may not think masculine energy can be intense or even scary at times.

Whilst Feminism has done some great things for us, it has also made women quite domineering with a tendency to castrate men with a single look. I suppose this is partially where the term ‘Ball-Breaker’ began to tread our vocabulary.

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An Angry Man: Understanding and Helping Your Partner

How To Love An Angry Man - Part 1

We all get angry at times. When we feel we’re threatened we react with anger. But we know people who get overly angry or their anger causes problems with their relationships at home or at work. I was one of those people.

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What is Masculinity for Men

I find that many people have opinions on what masculinity is for others. Too often today people trash the idea of masculinity. What is it for men themselves?

Recently I wrote about my masculinity I am Proud Of My Masculinity.

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Create Deep Connections Online, Not Just In Person [Video]

Do you worry about your lack of connection because you are always online? In this video I talk about my life in a remote part of Spain and how I use virtual connections to create deep connections.

I am part of a Men’s Group we call ‘The Men’s Virtual Gathering’. We meet every second friday using Google Hangout. Ten of us meet from around the world, Spain, Portugal, Norway, Canada and the US.

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Jimmy Savile, Rape Culture and the Lessons for Us All

I find the term ‘rape culture’ offensive, but in hearing the British Health Secretary reporting to the British Parliament on the Savile Affair, I question whether being offended is valid any more.

When I was 16 years old, in 1964, a British TV show featuring pop music started. ‘Top of the Pops’ was an iconic show from the BBC. It came from an old church in Manchester that had been turned into a TV studio. I used to pass it by bus on my way to and from school. I can remember seeing the queues of girls hoping to get in and see their favorite ‘pop stars’. It was like nothing that had been presented before and the first presenter was a man destined to become famous—perhaps infamous would be better—and an icon of my generation.

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