I Am Male, and I Am a Man

The first is biological and undeniable; the second is in my character.

To understand myself as a man, I need to look at my behaviour.

In my early 50s, I was the Design Principal of a practice based in London. There were eight of us—four men and four women. The firm was owned and run by men, including me, but the main design leaders were women.

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The Brave Put Down Their Fear And Go Forward

What are you most fearful of? Do you have a fear of success?

What is the worst thing that could happen to you? What is it that you secretly dread more than anything else? Do you have a fear of success or failure?

For most people there are two fears that have greater power than any other. They are the fear that they aren’t loved or the fear that they aren’t good enough.

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Bushido Code – The Samurai For Todays Men

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The Warriors Way was the code the Samurai Warriors lived by.

The Warrior’s Way of strength and rigour amazes and frightens others at the same time. Men feel a desire to follow Bushido Code but the western world seems to work against it. The context, particularly of today’s world, does not seem to allow for its existence.

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He Is A Rogue — He Has The Best Male Blog

I am a man and I am a blogger. In fact I’ve turned it back on itsel—I blog about men!

Now, some men are rogues. We all know rogues: they are focused, calculating, dedicated, and only want one thing. These are the qualities of a real rogue—and the qualities of a successful blogger.

Look at what Chris Guillebeau, at Art of Non-Conformity, said:

The reality that I need to work more than I thought has required some sacrifices I did not expect in the beginning, and it took me a while to become comfortable with this.

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The Courage To Change – To Feel Love – To Feel Important

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When we first met you were crazy about her. You couldn't stop talking about her. You wanted so much to be with her, all the time, but you couldn't make it work. You needed her to show you the way. But it never happened, it fell apart. What do you want now...

I wonder, “What do you want in life?” When we first met you were crazy about her. You couldn’t stop talking about her.

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How Bubbles The Stupid Dog Is Inspiring

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Bubbles is a Spanish Water Dog. Her favourite game is to chase balls that you throw for her. How is that inspiring?

She places the ball at your feet and stands waiting for you to throw it. All the time she is focused on you, gazing expectantly into your eyes. You throw the ball and she hares after it, brings it back and the whole process starts again.

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