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Young And Hopeless—I’m Angry At My Father

I know I'm making something out of this life they called nothing.

A few years ago I was living in Tilburg, The Netherlands. This is a small town in the middle of the country. The one amazing thing they have is a large pop venue that is a favourite touring venue for punk bands. It is one of the few places in The Netherlands that my son, a punk drummer, has been to. One night I went to see ‘Good Charlotte‘, the US punk band based around the Madden brothers. I had an envigorating, rocking evening, even though I was in my sixties! The song that remains with me from that gig is ‘Young and Hopeless’. It is a personal song that aches with teenage angst and disconnection.

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7 Ways To Have Great Sex With Your Woman

Sex is important to men, not just because it is fun, but also because it is a way of establishing a deep connection with women.

Men want sex, but they want the right kind of sex. They do not want the old, macho, sex where they just go for quick pleasure. They do not want to dominate their woman and hope she enjoys herself. They do not want to hope for the best, hope that they get it right, hope their desire is returned. In this age of integrated, mature men it is important to understand a man’s needs, but more importantly, it is important to understand a woman’s needs.

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How I Connected With The Soul Of The Universe

In my years of seeking I had a feeling that my life was about more than just living in the period from birth to death.

I have been seeking all my life. I have always had this sense of looking for my home, my refuge. It has not been through a sense of lack or need, but through a sense of destiny. I have spent many years on this journey and then a few years ago I found what I was seeking. I love the story of Santiago, in ‘The Alchemist’, who travels to find a treasure he dreams about. On the way he learns to listen to his heart and that his Personal Legend, his heart’s desire, is part of the Soul of the Universe.

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Sat Purusha and The Yoga Sutras

Purusha: Spiritual Man

My life is changing, not the continual change that is always there—the arrow of time—but a dramatic shift that recognises the true me. This has been coming at me as a raging bull, something I can no longer ignore. In order to embrace it I need to acknowledge who I have been, who I am and who I am becoming. I am Purusha: Spiritual Man.

In my life I have been a seeker. As a teenager I sought a spiritual answer to an unknown question. I tried to understand where to look for the answer. What did I want? Why was I even looking? In the different approaches I tried, from Christianity to Yoga, I found many ideas to pursue, but no solutions.

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MAS002 The Men Alive Show featuring Lion Goodman – A Recovering Narcissist

Narcissism is a term from psychopathology, but it’s essentially a fancy term for extreme selfishness and, ultimately, narcissism is a win-lose game.

Lion Goodman is CEO of the Luminary Leadership Institute. He has 35 years experience as a coach, counselor, and healer. Lion is the creator of The BeliefCloset Process, a proprietary methodology for shifting beliefs at the core of the psyche. He served as Director of Men’s Programs at The Shift Network, where he created programs including the Ultimate Men’s Summit. His writings have been widely published, and he is the author of three books: ‘Creating on Purpose’; ‘Menlightenment: A Book for Awakening Men’; and ‘Transform Your Beliefs’.

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Surrendering To Masculine Energy

Why do you need to surrender to masculine energy? There’s no denying it; the masculine energy is intense. In fact, masculine energy is sometimes scary, from a woman’s perspective. Of course, I won’t neglect to acknowledge that many modern women won’t relate to this notion. Some may not think masculine energy can be intense or even scary at times.

Whilst Feminism has done some great things for us, it has also made women quite domineering with a tendency to castrate men with a single look. I suppose this is partially where the term ‘Ball-Breaker’ began to tread our vocabulary.

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Being Young and Free—Causing Chaos

It is something I yearn for because I know I can never go back there. In truth I yearn for it with the knowledge and experience I have today.

Being young and free. I never want to go back there in innocence and expectation. I never want to repeat the angst and the pain… I would rather stay happy in my sixties.

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Ode to Joy – Sometimes the Old Ones are the Best Ones

I look at the power of ‘Ode to Joy’ written in 1785 by German poet, Friedrich Schiller.

The poem uses language generally rejected today with its focus on men and brothers, but it does align with the reality of its time. What is interesting, though, is its focus on the feminine as offering the solutions to issues we face. In that it pre-dates much of what is spoken about today.

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Being a Grandfather—The Joys and the Lessons Learned

I recently became a Grandfather for the first time. I am overjoyed about this but aware that it is not as simple as it seems.

A year ago I became a grandfather for the first time and I am still in a daze about it. It is over thirty years since I became a father. I loved it at the time but I have no desire to go through it again. Being a grandfather is, however, completely different, I am glad to say.

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