The answer seems to be that they do not need to do anything. The key to trust is what you do yourself and how you view other people. Your ego can destroy your ability to respect others and can fool you into thinking that you are right and the other person is wrong—therefore untrustworthy.
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Why do I upset both men and women at the extremes when I write. What am I doing that scares them so much. Why can’t they acknowledge what is really happening in the world and join to make it even better.
The awakening man is conscious, heartfully defined. Through his eyes, being conscious is not a cerebral construct, nor an intellectual exercise bereft of feeling. It is a felt experience, an ever-expanding awareness that moves from the heart outward. It is feeling God, not thinking God. The new man is always in process, awakening through a deepening interface with the world of feeling. He continues to strive for a more heartfelt and inclusive awareness.
Some years ago I ran a company along with a business partner. He had founded the company years before and he was proud of what he had achieved. I put money into the company and trusted what he told me. I did not look too deep because I was proud of what the company did and flattered to be asked to join as a director.
The idea of being a man, today, has been caught up in a gender discussion that is purely political. It was started by the feminist movement to help women stake a claim to equality in a male dominated world.
There is nothing wrong with that discussion, indeed it’s one that is necessary, but it should not dominate all thought and discussion about men, manhood and masculinity.
In the poem Kipling does not talk about men in relation to women, he does not discuss male domination or patriarchy. He does not mention loving a woman. He discusses men in relation to other men. He explores the concept of being a man as opposed to not being a man.
I am organising an evening event, here in Spain, on ‘Sizzling Relationships’. It’s based on the work I do with men, helping them learn how to be a man. There are lots of women signing up, even though my work is mainly with men. They are having difficulties, however, getting their men to come.
I am also having difficulties getting men to sign up for my course on ‘How To Love A Woman’..
What’s happening? Where are they? Where are the men? Don’t they want to know ‘How To Be A Man’?
The Warrior’s Way of strength and rigour amazes and frightens others at the same time. Men feel a desire to follow Bushido Code but the western world seems to work against it. The context, particularly of today’s world, does not seem to allow for its existence.
The Seven Ages of Man is one of Shakespeare’s most famous speeches. It begins with the famous, “All the worlds a stage”.
This conjures up for many of us a fabulous picture of life as an act, where we play our parts behind our masks. This is a potent idea that explains the way people deal with many of the problems they face in life. ?p>
I found that almost the whole of the first half of my life I lived behind a mask. Only when I realised what was happening was I able to change. Once I came out from behind the mask I was able to live an authentic empowered life.
The Seven Ages of Man
But back to Shakespeare and his 7 Ages of Man.
The speech lays out his, humourous, view of a man’s life from the cradle to the grave. Is there any modern equivalent of his ages, are they applicable today? Let’s look at his ages and see if we can find equivalents.
Seven Ages of Man 1 – The Infant
“Mewling and puking in the nurse’s arms”
Things have clearly not changed here. I remember this from my own two boys.
Seven Ages of Man 2 – The Whining School-Boy
“With his satchel and shining morning face, creeping like snail unwillingly to school”
Well that was both me and my children, and, I suspect, my father too. If we ever get to school-boys not whining then I think something will be very wrong with our education system!
Seven Ages of Man 3 – The Lover
“Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad made to his mistress’ eyebrow”
I think this has changed a lot. It sounds like sex was either unheard of (yea, right…) of it was kept well hidden. Today lust is far more the issue rather than poetic swooning.
Seven Ages of Man 4 – A Soldier
“Full of strange oaths, and bearded like the pard, jealous in honour, sudden and quick in quarrel, seeking the bubble reputation even in the cannon’s mouth”
A ‘pard’ is a leopard. ‘Seeking the bubble reputation’ probably refers to the soldier’s desire for fame based battle record, even when it means he faces death.
I’m sure we can all recognise this man in Iraq or Afghanistan. The nobility of a soldier has always seemed a little thin to me, it clearly was in Shakespeare’s time as well.
Seven Ages of Man 5 – The Justice
“In fair round belly with good capon lin’d, with eyes severe and beard of formal cut, full of wise saws and modern instances”
A ‘good capon lin’d’ refers to a castrated cockerel, suggesting his days of being a lover are over. ‘Wise saws and modern instances’ are up to date examples of wise sayings, suggesting a life of experience.
We jump to older wise man who seems to have lost all speed and passion. His wisdom has deprived him, almost, of life.
Seven Ages of Man 6 – The Lean and Slipper’d Pantaloon
“With spectacles on nose and pouch on side; his youthful hose, well sav’d, a world too wide for his shrunk shank; and his big manly voice, turning again toward childish treble, pipes and whistles in his sound”
He is completely defined by status and money. He is at the top of the social order. His fear of death makes him try to defy his age, but we all know the foolishness of men with wigs and face lifts. Certain celebrities jump immediately to mind, Donald Trump, for instance, or even Bill Clinton. These men are dangerous because they have everything to lose.
Seven Ages of Man 7 – Second Childishness
“Mere oblivion; sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything”
Everything’s gone, he is left as a slobbering old man, deserted by family, dumped in a home. So true of today’s society.
The ages left out? The working man, the father and … What do you think?
To finish let’s look at the whole speech:
“All the world’s a stage,
And all the men and women merely players;
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts,
His acts being seven ages. At first the infant,
Mewling and puking in the nurse’s arms;
And then the whining school-boy, with his satchel
And shining morning face, creeping like snail
Unwillingly to school. And then the lover,
Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad
Made to his mistress’ eyebrow. Then a soldier,
Full of strange oaths, and bearded like the pard,
Jealous in honour, sudden and quick in quarrel,
Seeking the bubble reputation
Even in the cannon’s mouth. And then the justice,
In fair round belly with good capon lin’d,
With eyes severe and beard of formal cut,
Full of wise saws and modern instances;
And so he plays his part. The sixth age shifts
Into the lean and slipper’d pantaloon,
With spectacles on nose and pouch on side;
His youthful hose, well sav’d, a world too wide
For his shrunk shank; and his big manly voice,
Turning again toward childish treble, pipes
And whistles in his sound. Last scene of all,
That ends this strange eventful history,
Is second childishness and mere oblivion;
Sans teeth, sans eyes, sans taste, sans everything.”
(As You Like It – Act II Scene VII – William Shakespeare)
The sun was high, the shadows were small, the heat was intense. It was my first time here. After years of seeing pictures here was the reality. I became absorbed in the light, its colour, intensity and movement. Light has been my passion for over forty years. It has been my profession and has been the bridge between the outside world and my inner world. Here I was in front of one of the greatest examples of the dynamism of light and all I had to do was sit and enjoy it.