Handfasting, a Dance Invitation and Fulfilling a Prediction

In thinking about my handfasting, I go back over 50 years ago to a trip to Yugoslavia, into what is now Serbia.

I was a young man on my first extensive trip abroad. I stayed with Mama Lepa (Leposava Mihailovic, my sister-in-law’s mother). This was in the days of Marshal Tito, the days when people were proud of Yugoslavia.

One morning I met an old friend of Mama Lepa’s who told my fortune using beads. I remember little about it apart from the prediction that I would be married three times. I found this strange at the time and thought it nonsense. But it lead to my handfasting.

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How To Love A Woman – 10 Ways For Men To Love

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Men seek comfort, confirmation that they are ok. Most men are, at heart, uncertain about themselves. Men want answers to many questions, an important one is "How to love a woman?"

Do you know what love is? You form a relationship and get married to affirm your place in the world. You learn, you think, how to treat a woman, how to be with her and you call that love. But ultimately it doesn’t seem to work. You wonder where love went and wonder how to love a woman.

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The Rhythm of Masculinity, What Does It Mean For Men?

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Life has rhythm, from the cycle of days, created by the sun, to the cycle of months, created by the moon. The seasons roll around from year to year. What about Men? What are their rhythms? How are they different...

There seems to be no discernible cycle in a man’s life. Are there any rhythms that are peculiar to men, that separate men from women? What is different about men? What is the rhythm of masculinity?

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