The Tyrant’s Confusion

The journey out of the tyrant’s frenzied fantasies returns our sense of self to the felt reality that holds us in its arms.

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The journey out of the tyrant’s frenzied fantasies returns our sense of self to the felt reality that holds us in its arms.

In his classic book, The Hero with a Thousand Faces, Joseph Campbell presents not just the hero, but also the tyrant with a thousand faces – and shows him to be an equal force at work within the stories of world myth. As those stories bring the tyrant to life for us, we witness his desperate self-centeredness, his need to acquire and hold fast to whatever he can, and his impulses to manipulate people and circumstances to suit his personal agenda. What distinguishes the tyrant’s attitude above all else is his belief that he deserves his special status because, according to some private yardstick, he is better than others.

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Trust Honor and Deep Respect—Decisions and Choices

What does it mean to trust someone? What is honor and how is it related to deep respect? Is it necessary for them to do what you think is right? What do they need to do to gain that trust and respect?

trust honor and respect

What does it mean to trust someone? What is honor and how is it related to deep respect? Is it necessary for them to do what you think is right? What do they need to do to gain that trust and respect?

The answer seems to be that they do not need to do anything. The key to trust is what you do yourself and how you view other people. Your ego can destroy your ability to respect others and can fool you into thinking that you are right and the other person is wrong—therefore untrustworthy.

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Being a Grandfather—The Joys and the Lessons Learned

I recently became a Grandfather for the first time. I am overjoyed about this but aware that it is not as simple as it seems.

joys and lessons of being a grandfather

I recently became a Grandfather for the first time. I am overjoyed about this but aware that it is not as simple as it seems.

A year ago I became a grandfather for the first time and I am still in a daze about it. It is over thirty years since I became a father. I loved it at the time but I have no desire to go through it again. Being a grandfather is, however, completely different, I am glad to say.

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I Want Respect: On Punk Music and Learning Disabilities

I attended the first night of a Punk Music Tour and discovered what inclusion for those with learning disabilities really means.

I attended the first night of a Punk Music Tour and discovered what inclusion for those with learning disabilities really means.

There is a lot of talk on The Good Men Project about inclusion across the areas of gender, gender identity, race and other important issues. But the topic of how we treat those with learning disabilities like everyone else is just now coming to the forefront of the discussion. No matter how hard we work to include those who seem to be not like us, many people still find those with learning disabilities a challenge. I know I do. Autism and Downs Syndrome can be especially difficult as the effect is to disable simple communication. If we cannot communicate through words with someone how do we include them in our life?

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The Lesson of the Wall: Why My Anger Looked Different to Me from The Inside Than It Did on the Outside

I often felt the urge to exert control, the need to get people to listen to me. What happened when I resorted to violence to be in charge?

I often felt the urge to exert control, the need to get people to listen to me. What happened when I resorted to violence to be in charge?

I left home and school at the age of eighteen and went off to work in the theatre, far away from home. I was rebelling against what I felt was a restrictive background. I was shy, not at all sure of myself, and not in control of myself.

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The Awakening Man

The awakening man brings forward many of the qualities of the healthy masculine of old.

The awakening man brings forward many of the qualities of the healthy masculine of old.

The awakening man is conscious, heartfully defined. Through his eyes, being conscious is not a cerebral construct, nor an intellectual exercise bereft of feeling. It is a felt experience, an ever-expanding awareness that moves from the heart outward. It is feeling God, not thinking God. The new man is always in process, awakening through a deepening interface with the world of feeling. He continues to strive for a more heartfelt and inclusive awareness.

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Taking Control – How To Avoid Getting Beaten Up

Have you ever felt the urge to exert control? Have you ever needed to get people to listen to you? Have you ever resorted to violence to be in charge? The answer should be no, but is too often yes!

Have you ever felt the urge to exert control? Have you ever needed to get people to listen to you? Have you ever resorted to violence to be in charge? The answer should be no, but is too often yes!

I left home and school at 18 and went off to work in the theatre. I was rebelling against what I felt was a restrictive background. Yet I was shy and not at all sure of myself.

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The Pursuit Of Happiness – How Men Can Be Happy

The United States Declaration of Independence says, "... that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and Happiness." But how is that happiness achieved?

The United States Declaration of Independence says, "... that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and Happiness." But how is that happiness achieved?

Recently I created an online course for men called ‘How To Love A Woman’. The course has had some success but not as much as I expected. In talking to a number of men it seems that the name and the concept did not push their buttons. I have been seeking a focus for the course that men can and will relate to. This needs to have strength to it and it needs to connect with how men achieve love and intimacy with women. In there lies power for men.

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I Stand For What I Believe – I Am Proud Of My Core Beliefs

I feel shocked and upset. I have just unfriended someone on Facebook. This is something I thought I would never do. I thought this was against my core beliefs.

I feel shocked and upset. I have just unfriended someone on Facebook. This is something I thought I would never do. I thought this was against my core beliefs.

I believe that Facebook is a place for public debate. It’s an open forum where we exchange views. As long as the person isn’t openly threatening, I have always felt that everyone has a right to respond, comment and have their say.

I was recently involved in a discussion where I disagreed with people’s desire to unfriend or block people who were simply rude. I love arguing; to a point. I love the process of debate. I think that’s how we evolve our society. I think that’s how we negotiate our way through the minefield of modern society.

Yet, today, I unfriended someone and removed their contribution to the debate we were having. What’s interesting is that person is an actual friend of mine, not just a Facebook friend. That person is someone I have respected and whose company I have enjoyed.

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