Emotional Abuse – I Still Want To Kick The Shit Out Of Him…

Being dominating and using mental and emotional abuse is as bad as being physically abusive.

I was in Glasgow with my parents on our annual trip back to Scotland to visit family. I must have been in my early teens. I went off for the day to explore the city on my own. I’ve always enjoyed walking around new and strange cities. My love of steam trains (they still existed then) took me to St Enoch Station.

Standing on the steps looking at my map and wondering where to go next, I was approached by a man seeking to help me.

I was the typical innocent abroad and trusted this man. We started talking and he offered to buy me a coffee in the station cafe. I accepted.

We sat in a quiet corner and at one point he gently took my hand and laid it on his leg. I realised my hand was on his erect penis. I was horrified and only then realised why this man was so helpful. I got away as quick as I could.

Although nothing serious happened to me this experience has remained with me for 50 years now.

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Getting Old? Absolutely Not!

I refuse to get old and expect to become a cantankerous old man.

My parents-in-law are visiting: it’s their first trip to Spain. They have the resigned look of people waiting for life to fade out. They fit in here, in this seaside town full of English ex-pat pensioners wondering what to do with their lives and their money.

I am just a few months away from becoming an official ‘Old Age Pensioner’ (a UK term for the more gentle US term ‘Senior Citizen’) myself. I will be grateful for the State Pension, having paid into it my whole working life, but I don’t feel old. I am the same age as many of the tired people I see in ‘Koi’, my favourite cafe, but I feel as I’m from a different planet.

I am overweight and find hill-walking difficult. I no longer run, perhaps more through laziness. My hair is white and I enjoy more rest than I used to. I need glasses to read but I don’t feel my body failing. I don’t see age sucking me down into its abyss. I don’t think about death or what might have been.

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Understanding Women – The Key To Amazing Relationships

When I was young I had no clue what made women tick, I had no idea about understanding women.

Women were a foreign country to me with a language I didn’t understand. I was shy and awkward around women. I just didn’t know what to do.

It wasn’t until I stepped into my power as a man that things started to really make sense to me. It wasn’t until I looked at myself that I realised I understood the language all along.

When you are learning how to attract a woman or trying to find a relationship, the skill of understanding women will be essential.

I am not talking about the times you are horny and just want to have sex. What I am talking about is when you really start to understand the complex nature of women.

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Why Do Men Cheat – The Dirty Lowdown Of The Affair

Women seem to talk constantly about why men cheat. There is a perception that men cheat all the time, is this true? It creates an impression that men are not to be trusted, do you find this?

When both men and women are asked why do men cheat, the immediate responses are often,

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Alexander The Great – Visionary And Reader Of Omens

Recently I went on a trip to Turkey to look at some of the ancient sites connected with Alexander the Great. The lessons from Alexander are powerful for all of us.

He had an amazing vision of what he wanted to do in life, what he wanted to achieve. But, as we all know, moving from vision to reality can be a trial. You need certainty that what you are doing is right and you need to be able to bring your followers along with you knowing they will trust you.

Alexander used the gods and omens to confirm what he was doing as he was putting his vision into action. He deliberately modelled himself on Achilles the great mythological hero. Aligning himself with Achilles gave him stature and helped him get total respect from his men.

He would interpret events around him as omens for his battles ahead, before the great battle of Gaugamela he saw an eagle flying high in the sky, for him an omen of coming success.

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Love Yourself – Get To Know Who You Are

To grow as a man and learn how to be with a woman you need to start with yourself. Knowing yourself is great beginning, but loving yourself is the end you should aim for.

Loving yourself may not seem very ‘manly’. It may seem a little soft or ‘new age’ to you, but believe me it’s absolutely essential if you want to gain self confidence and become more grounded.

This is important if you lack confidence in yourself or your relationship, or if you find it difficult to love for others. If you become grounded and love yourself you’ll take a crucial step to avoiding feeling awkward around women and you’ll gain confidence in yourself and your abilities.

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Surrender is the Tenderest Impulse of the Heart

Surrender is being alert to exactly what is happening now, not in the past.

It is common to see relationships as battlegrounds where couples act out their needs and desires. Relationships are where people most often seek to control another person. Relationships fail more often than they succeed because people try to manipulate them into what they want.

When did you last look with detachment at your intimate or most important relationship? When did you last honestly appraise it and work out what it really means to you? Have you ever done this with compassion and understanding?

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Infinite Expectation Of The Dawn — Find Your Brilliance

The influence of spiritual energy in our lives goes beyond our expectations.

How do you relate to the environment you live in? What appreciation of the flow of nature do you have? Reawaken to the dawn? Does this mean anything to you?

We must learn to reawaken and keep ourselves awake, not by mechanical aid, but by an infinite expectation of the dawn.
—Henry David Thoreau

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Shiva Shakti – Ambiguity And Paradox – Creation and Destruction

Shiva cycles through the process of creation, preservation, dissolution and recreation.

Balancing my look at the Bushido Code, I am looking at Shiva Shakti, the Hindu god. It is worth examining who he is, what he represents and the lessons he has for today’s man.

Some of you found Bushido too attached to violence and a destructive way of life, it’s interesting that Shiva is also connected to destruction. This seems to be a theme in men.

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Advice On Relationships From The Rolling Stones

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I am always looking for advice on relationships and I recently found a fascinating source.

In the autumn of 1963 I saw The Rolling Stones, at the Odeon Theatre in Manchester, on their first UK concert tour as a supporting act for American stars including Bo Diddley, Little Richard and The Everly Brothers.

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