Women were a foreign country to me with a language I didn’t understand.
I was shy and awkward around women. I just didn’t know what to do.
It wasn’t until I stepped into my power as a man that things started to really make sense to me. It wasn’t until I looked at myself that I realised I understood the language all along.
When you are learning how to attract a woman or trying to find a relationship, the skill of understanding women will be essential.
I am not talking about the times you are horny and just want to have sex. What I am talking about is when you really start to understand the complex nature of women.
The first thing you need to know is that it starts with you.
Understanding Women – The Keys
To understand real women, the women you want to spend your life with, you need to come to grips with the complex nature of femininity. There is no quick guide to understanding women or femininity, but I intend to start the process here.
Women’s brains are wired differently from men’s. While a man’s brain is compartmentalised, focused and directed, a woman’s brain connects everything up, and it does it all the time. You must have noticed that a woman can think and talk about totally unrelated subjects in one sentence, continually.
A woman’s body is in a constant state of flux due to hormone changes. The hormonal, or menstrual, cycle of women is often compared to that of the moon; when the moon is full everything is fine, when the moon is new everything turns dark. Waxing or waning, it depends. This is exactly how many men experience intimacy and sex with women, it depends. If men don’t start understanding women this drives them crazy.
Understanding Women – Erratic behaviour
She says one thing, then does another. She puts on this dress then changes again. This might come across as chaotic, but is due to a third factor: an uncanny sensitivity. Her mood is constantly changing with a look out the window or something in a magazine. With it the outer world changes. It happens in a moment.
Learn to love it – it is part of who she is.
Understanding Women – Female Testing
She expects you to read her mind, to show you care. She is expecting you to pass the tests you didn’t know about. Whatever she throws out at you mostly has to do with her. She tests you because she loves you and wants to be with you. A man passes the tests by staying centred in his own strength.
A woman doesn’t want you to give in all the time, she wants you to believe in your mission, in what you stand for. Her tests are geared to find out how grounded you are in yourself. The feminine energy is an energy that is aloof. With you grounded, she can open up safely to it.
Understanding Women – How To Attract Women
Being engaging, having a good sense of humour and feeling confident in yourself are the best attributes to attract women. Having a good reputation, being healthy and doing ok financially adds to the mix. Women also like a man who can carry on an interesting conversation and can appreciate a good joke.
For most women, good looks are more of a bonus. The great song: ‘Girls are going crazy ’bout a sharp dressed man‘ is very true. Unfortunately many men keep hanging on to their T-shirts and Jeans…
Understanding Women – Body language
Although conversation is appreciated, you mostly communicate through your body language. When you are centred in yourself, your confidence, your masculinity, your comfort with your sexual desires radiates outward.
Men that are centred in their own power don’t worry what others think of them. That message hits home with a woman. The purpose of Graham Reid Phoenix is to give men a reference of this and help men step into that power.
Understanding Women – The Game
These concepts are used cleverly and blatantly by, so-called, ‘Alpha Males’ and ‘Pick-Up Artists’. Whilst this works in the short term, as many men trumpet on the internet, beyond that a different process comes into play. Women need to trust their man and can see when he is being inauthentic or dishonest.
Once the initial lust has been satisfied on both sides it essential that a man is totally himself and in his power for a woman to take him seriously. Women cannot be fooled and men throughout history have found this out to their cost.
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