It is important in life to be aware of what you are seeking for yourself. Everyone seeks something in life, whether it’s a quiet life, a passionate one or a life of risk and adventure. The difficulty arises when you don’t know what it is. You can easily live against the dreams you have and cause confusion for yourself, confusion that you don’t understand.
Men are traditionally focused and directed. They excel at knowing what they want and how they’re going to get it. That, however, is a stereotype. The truth is often far from that, men are afloat with no chart to guide them. This is one of the major causes of men not feeling they are men.
It is important to know what the truth is for you and the best way to go about seeking it. This will be a lifelong journey, so it’s best to take the right equipment along.
It is not the possession of truth, but the success which attends the seeking after it, that enriches the seeker and brings happiness to him.Max Planck
I had a period around mid-life when I felt adrift and rudderless, it was a disorienting experience.
I didn’t know whether the direction I had taken in my career was the right one. I was adrift financially. I didn’t know where I was going as a father. I tried counselling, but they just asked what I wanted. I didn’t know who to turn to to help me through this dilemma.
I started reading and exploring what I thought and what I felt. I looked at my life and audited it. I put myself through a detailed inspection and eventually realised a simple truth. I was seeking ‘the truth’ and that truth was already inside me. I felt like Santiago in ‘The Alchemist’, I had gone on a journey only to return to where I had started.
The realisation that I had already known the truth and was not recognising it gave me such clarity. It enabled me to open to what was inside me.
- What are you seeking in your life? Do you know or are you still on the journey? How important is the journey to you?
- To what extent is your life in line with your ‘truth’? Are you just following your nose or are you focused?
- Do you feel you need to go back to the beginning and re-assess your life to find the road you want to journey along, or do you just need to fine-tune it?
- Look inside yourself and see what is there already. Are you holding your dream without realising it? If so how can you release it?