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How To Love A Woman Course
Session 7: Understand Women

In understanding women, you need to have balance and understand men as well. In doing this, you will look at how men and women process emotions in different ways and understand how you process emotions.

Understanding Men, Understanding Women, Emotions

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Understand Women - Summary

Men and women

The Five Love Languages, by Dr. Gary Chapman, the key to make your partner feel loved:

Emotions

Constantly repressing emotions affects the quality of relationships with others. Every thought or feeling of anger, hurt, depression, anxiety, sadness and shame that you have experienced is held within the cells of your body unless you have consciously allowed yourself to feel, process and release them.

Understand Women - Worksheet

Set aside time to think through your answers to the questions. They are intended to get you thinking about your emotions and their relationship to pain.. Write your answers either in this worksheet or start a journal. Also write your emotional or other reactions.

  1. If you are in pain now, for whatever reason, sit silently and focus into the source of that pain. Allow it to communicate with you and tell you why it is there. What is it trying to get you to understand? If you have no pain, think back to when you had serious pain and go through the same process.
  2. Go deeper and feel what is there that you are not acknowledging. Keep going until you start to discover the emotions inside. What do you learn from seeing them?
  3. When you understand what it is there for, accept and acknowledge the communication, and let the pain go. What can you do to release these emotions? Will awareness be enough for you or do you need to do something more active?
  4. How can you setup a regular practice that will bring these emotions out in when you can deal with them without trauma? Is there a person or a group you can talk to regularly to start opening yourself up?

Understand Women - Exercise

You will need to continue with this exercise over an extended period of time, it can’t be completed in one sitting. It may be helpful to keep a special notebook to record the results. Choose a diary format so you can track the progress of how you connect with your emotions.

The exercise contains a number of ways you can get in touch with your emotions, either do all of them or pick the ones that particularly resonate with you, but do a minimum of three. Record your thoughts and emotions.