The Challenge of Being a Modern Man—Can You Cope?
Issues of Concern to Men
Perhaps it is the fact that men recognise the challenges and are working to change the future that gives me hope.
The article gives 5 issues that men should be concerned about. I will look at them in sequence starting with short quotes from the article.
1. Crumbling Marriages
Roughly a third of currently married men are cheating on their spouse.
That means that roughly two thirds are NOT. That is a great statistic when you take into account that it’s supposed to be ‘natural’ for men to cheat!
What I want to know though is what is happening in committed relationships outside marriage. Marriage is going out of fashion perhaps because couples don’t want to be committed for life. The greatest issue with unfaithfulness and divorce is the effect on young children, these statistics say nothing about that.
There is nothing wrong with separation, divorce or affairs, per se. It depends on the circumstances surrounding them.
1 in 3 children live without their father around.
This is terrible statistic, it’s the one that most disturbs me. Children, particularly boys, need a father as a role model. The hope lies in the amount of attention this is getting from men. Men are increasingly challenged to take their role as fathers more seriously. I believe this situation is slowly changing. We need to support those men who are working to change this.
3. Domestic Violence
Every 9 seconds in the US a woman is a victim of domestic violence.
Bad as this statistic seems to be there is no relation to how deeply embedded in men this is. It also does not address how often this happens the other way round. There is no analysis of how much this is a male crime as opposed to a crime. Most men are not involved in this and can do nothing about it. Perhaps is we didn’t insist on marriages being sacred this might be reduced. Perhaps if we focused on the true basis of this crime, that of control, we might address it better.
To tar all men with this brush does not create a situation where it can be reduced.
4. Prolonged Adolescence
1 in 3 guys, aged 18-34, still live at home with their parents.
It is surely obvious that this is mainly a result of the pressure from increased population and from the desperate economic situation we are in. In is simply more difficult for men to live away from their parents.
To assume that this means they are not growing as men is not acceptable. The statistics do not show this at all. The fact that men are marrying later only shows that they are taking marriage more seriously and that marriage is less accepted now. Perhaps men are learning more from their parents and growing in maturity?
5. Wasted Lives
The average gamer is 35 years old, overweight and depressed.
I don’t believe in wasted lives and I don’t believe in writing people off just because of how they spend their time. No one’s life can be written off at age 35, it’s only around half through. People often take time to find their passion.
Let’s help them not condemn them.
Supporting Modern Men
There has never been such a focus on men and manhood as today. People are seeing that men need help and providing that help. Condemning men only creates greater confusion for them, while give them help can show them a way into the future. I support the modern man.