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A Conversation About Men And Sexual Abuse

by Sat Purusha

Join Dr. Vibe and Sat Purusha as they host the discussion 'Men And Sexual Abuse'.

I write about health, spirituality and masculinity. I explore what masculinity means in relation to the rest of men’s lives. As part of my engagement with others interested the areas I write about I had a conversation with Dr Vibe. We looked at the area of sexual abuse, and its significance in the lives of men and in my life. It has become a cause celebre in thge Uk where revelations continue to hit the headlines. Why is this subject si important? What can we doi to change the situation?

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by Sat Purusha

The Day Christmas Died

by Sat Purusha

Christmas is a time for family celebrations until it becomes a weapon in a family battle.

It was Christmas Eve. She stayed in bed. She would not get up, no matter how hard he persuaded her. Her demons were with her, crowding her mind. They would not let her go; she would not let them go.

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by Sat Purusha

Football is a Man’s Game Where Sexual Abuse of Boys by Men is Common

by Sat Purusha

A new scandal in Britain has highlighted the extent of sexual abuse of boys in the game.

I have never been a fan of football in the UK. It has, for me, been too closely associated with racism and violence. Football (or soccer as it is called in the US) is a man’s game in the world outside the US. It brings men together and creates an atmosphere where they can bond and experience the rituals of battle in a safe atmosphere. It has been accepted as an essential part of British and European male culture.

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by Sat Purusha

Jimmy Savile, Rape Culture and the Lessons for Us All

by Graham Phoenix

I find the term ‘rape culture’ offensive, but in hearing the British Health Secretary reporting to the British Parliament on the Savile Affair, I question whether being offended is valid any more.

When I was 16 years old, in 1964, a British TV show featuring pop music started. ‘Top of the Pops’ was an iconic show from the BBC. It came from an old church in Manchester that had been turned into a TV studio. I used to pass it by bus on my way to and from school. I can remember seeing the queues of girls hoping to get in and see their favorite ‘pop stars’. It was like nothing that had been presented before and the first presenter was a man destined to become famous—perhaps infamous would be better—and an icon of my generation.

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by Graham Phoenix

It Is About Control Not Sex – Henry Rollins Speaks Out

by Graham Phoenix

Rape is generally about control not sex. It is about domination, usually by men of women, although it happens in other combinations as well.

In my view it is not so much a gender issue as a human issue. It is about sad people who cannot see how to live decent lives and take that out on others. What is tragic, though, is how it blights the lives of those involved. Often the lives of the victims are shattered with devastating ripple effects. The lives of the perpetuators are affected as well, often for the rest of their lives. Victims can become perpetuators, and so on.

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by Graham Phoenix