How To Understand Women [Treat Her Like A Goddess]
How can we understand women? How can we know what they are feeling? Men wonder how to get into the soul of their woman, wonder how to get close. She wants us to understand what she is feeling and leave her to feel it.
This morning she said to me, " I feel angry, sad, lost and alone. I can feel you, but I can't feel you." What did that mean? How do I deal with that? What do I do? I can guess what it's about but it seems an extraordinary over reaction, or is it? How can I understand women?
The Chaos of Women
Does the chaos of your woman freak you out? Do you find yourself retreating into your man cave? Do you wonder what on earth is going on? Do you wonder what you have done to deserve this?
I used to feel that. I used to just not understand what was the matter. When the storm happened, and it was centred around her, I used to become scared about what was going, worried about what I had done to create it. When it happened I focused on me and what I had done!
Then I realised IT WAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME. It was not my fault. One of the characteristics of being feminine is the tendency to chaos, the ability to be out of control, for no specific reason. For a woman everything has equal importance in her brain and when it gets too much, there can be a letting off of steam.
Understand Her Moods
Marilyn Monroe said,
I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
What she said is the key to being with a woman. We need to understand all her moods, everything she is.
We need to be able to stand like a rock and hold on to our core. We need to know that it is alright and that it will blow over.
We Are Not The Solution
A woman does not want us to solve the situation, she wants us to listen. She wants us to understand what she is feeling and leave her to feel it. She wants us to be with her and hold her while giving her the space to swirl around and cause chaos. Most of all she wants us not to be knocked about by how she is, she wants us to stand firm in the midst of it and let her carry on until it is finished.
Then we will get her at her best, and she will be amazing and beautiful and loving.
Understanding Women—The Key To Amazing Relationships
When I was young I had no clue what made women tick, I had no idea about understanding women. Women were a foreign country to me with a language I didn't understand. I was shy and didn't know what to do.
It wasn't until I stepped into my power as a man that things started to really make sense to me. It wasn't until I looked at myself that I realised I understood the language all along. When you are learning how to attract a woman or trying to find a relationship, the skill of understanding women will be essential.
I am not talking about the times you are horny and just want to have sex. What I am talking about is when you really start to understand the complex nature of women.
The first thing you need to know is that it starts with you.
To understand real women, the women you want to spend your life with, you need to come to grips with the complex nature of femininity. There is no quick guide to understanding women or femininity, but I intend to start the process here.
Women's brains are wired differently from men's. While a man's brain is compartmentalised, focused and directed, a woman's brain connects everything up, and it does it all the time. You must have noticed that a woman can think and talk about totally unrelated subjects in one sentence, continually.
A woman's body is in a constant state of flux due to hormone changes. The hormonal, or menstrual, cycle of women is often compared to that of the moon; when the moon is full everything is fine, when the moon is new everything turns dark. Waxing or waning, it depends. This is exactly how many men experience intimacy and sex with women, it depends. If men don't start understanding women this drives them crazy.
She says one thing, then does another. She puts on this dress then changes again. This might come across as chaotic, but is due to a third factor: an uncanny sensitivity. Her mood is constantly changing with a look out the window or something in a magazine. With it the outer world changes. It happens in a moment.
Learn to love it – it is part of who she is.
She expects you to read her mind, to show you care. She is expecting you to pass the tests you didn't know about. Whatever she throws out at you mostly has to do with her. She tests you because she loves you and wants to be with you. A man passes the tests by staying centred in his own strength.
A woman doesn't want you to give in all the time, she wants you to believe in your mission, in what you stand for. Her tests are geared to find out how grounded you are in yourself. The feminine energy is an energy that is aloof. With you grounded, she can open up safely to it.
How To Attract Women
Being engaging, having a good sense of humour and feeling confident in yourself are the best attributes to attract women. Having a good reputation, being healthy and doing ok financially adds to the mix. Women also like a man who can carry on an interesting conversation and can appreciate a good joke.
For most women, good looks are more of a bonus. The great song: 'Girls are going crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man' is very true. Unfortunately many men keep hanging on to their T-shirts and Jeans...
Although conversation is appreciated, you mostly communicate through your body language. When you are centred in yourself, your confidence, your masculinity, your comfort with your sexual desires radiates outward.
Men that are centred in their own power don't worry what others think of them. That message hits home with a woman. The purpose of Graham Reid Phoenix is to give men a reference of this and help men step into that power.
Understanding Women – The Game
These concepts are used cleverly and blatantly by, so-called, 'Alpha Males' and 'Pick-Up Artists'. Whilst this works in the short term, as many men trumpet on the internet, beyond that a different process comes into play. Women need to trust their man and can see when he is being inauthentic or dishonest.
Once the initial lust has been satisfied on both sides it essential that a man is totally himself and in his power for a woman to take him seriously. Women cannot be fooled and men throughout history have found this out to their cost.
Female Goddess—How do You Keep it Fresh with One?
I was talking about my relationship to a female friend, talking about men, but she did not understand how to keep an exciting relationship at its initial level over time. My answer was simple, You need to start afresh every day.
She loved what I had to tell her, I am in awe of the radiance of your relationship, she said, but she still did not understand how to keep an exciting relationship at its initial level over time. My answer was simple, You need to start afresh every day. Treat every day as if it was the start of the relationship. Treat her as a female goddess. But how do you do that? she said.
That, of course, is where the simplicity ends. The eXperience starts before the relationship does and it starts with the man and his presence. This site is not intended to be a relationship or dating site but when talking about showing up as a man it becomes impossible to leave relationships out of the equation.
So here is a quick, 10 step, run-down, for men, on how to get it going and keep it fresh with female goddesses.
1. Treat your partner as a goddess.
Because she is, otherwise why would you love her? If you don't know how to do this then just think of everything you do as a form of worship. Make all your interactions sacred, you'll soon get the message from her responses.
2. Be fully present.
When you are with her let everything else go, she is the most important part of your world. Focus on her and show that you can take anything she does without flinching.
3. Don't make assumptions.
If in doubt, ask. You will often be in doubt, because you won't understand what is going on in her head. That's OK as long as you don't assume you know what's going on and get it completely wrong. To her that shows you haven't been listening.
4. Understand the power of polarity.
Relationships thrive on polarity. The polarity of a masculine man in his core and a feminine woman in her core is electrifying. Keep the polarity at the forefront of the relationship and do all you can to encourage it. Believe me you will enjoy it.
5. Look your best.
Act as you did when you were first going out. Look at how you dress, how you present yourself. She wants you to behave as you did in the beginning, she wants you to keep the excitement there. Don't become a slob!
6. Take the lead.
Men often let their woman take the lead and decide what to do. That is so wrong. Always take the lead in making decisions but ensure that you give her the space to have her say. The best is if you make the decision to do what she wants without appearing to. That's a winner.
7. Remember she needs constant attention.
This is the absolute number one in being with a woman. Much of what she does is, in fact, to remind you of this. You can never give too much attention. If in doubt just do it.
8. Don't take it personally.
Never, ever take anything she does, or says, personally. It is usually about something going on in her head which has nothing to do with you. While she is the most important person in your world, she is in her world. Let her be and don't get beaten down, it's not about you.
9. Never just say goodnight.
I really shouldn't have to say this! Let any difficulties go at the end of the day and hold her in your arms. Give her your love and tell her you love her. Do it again in a different way and repeat. I'm sure I don't have to tell you where to go from here.
10. Start afresh each day.
Start again as if it was the first day of the relationship. Take the ideas in the previous stage and expand on them. Welcome her into your world and look forward to your day together. Give her your love and tell her you love her. Do it again in a different way and repeat. I'm sure I don't have to tell you where to go from here.
Sometimes it can seem overwhelming to put all these into practice at once. If that is the case then just introduce them one or two at a time. Remember to start afresh each day no matter what happened yesterday. The past does not equal the future.
If in doubt just give your female goddess constant attention.