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7 Ways To Have Great Sex With Your Woman

Sex should always be more than just the act itself. It is a vital part of a relationship. Make it fun and relax into it and your relationship will be transformed. Great sex is fun sex, great sex is is easy.

Men want sex, but they want the right kind of sex. They do not want the old, macho, sex where they just go for quick pleasure. They do not want to dominate their woman and hope she enjoys herself. They do not want to hope for the best, hope that they get it right, hope their desire is returned. In this age of integrated, mature men it is important to understand a man's needs, but more importantly, it is important to understand a woman's needs.

How To Create Great Sex

Barging ahead creates failure and a disconnect between men and women. Sex is what brings men and women together, but often it is a raw experience of sex that is focused on satisfy their needs. As time goes on this fades and sex takes on a deeper more personal aspect. This when it is critical for a man to understand the needs of his partner.

Here is a quick run-down on how to create great sex with your woman and get all the sex you want:

1. Be totally present with her, give her attention.

Don't drift into your shell, your man-cave, when she is around. She needs to know that you want and appreciate her. You need to understand what she is saying and what she wants. Connect with her emotional side and have some fun. Get out of your head and focus on her, even if you are focusing on other things, break away from time to time and connect with her.

2. Anticipate her needs and desires, surprise her.

You should know her so well that you give her what she wants before she realises she wants it. This makes her feel special and wanted. It may take time to get to know what she wants, but it is worth the effort. Women love a man who does something different. Leave the old patterns behind, catch her off guard.

3. Read the signals.

She wants you to make the first move, but she wants you to know that she is ready. So many men completely miss the signals. This flows naturally out of being present with her, but it still needs practice to understand what her signals mean. Do not wait until she has to tell you what she wants, anticipate it.

4. Know and communicate what you want.

You need to be certain of what you want, no hesitation or doubt. Be a rock. This does not mean you can force this on her. She needs to know that you are strong and certain. It can free her from doubt or mistrust in you. Communicate your desires clearly to her, but listen to her reactions and adapt, if necessary.

5. Remember, she started long before you.

Sex for a woman begins long before a man thinks it does. If you have it right she's off before you realise it. It also lasts long after a man has finished, you need to understand and remember this. This means that the activities around sex become part of it for her. Once you can see how this works you can transform the experience for her and for yourself.

6. Remember sex is intimacy, be intimate.

It you look on sex as just a physical act you will get nowhere, connect with her, deeply. What you learned in the previous point is relevant here. Intimacy between the two of you is critically important for her. Just cuddling can be frustrating for a man, unless you feel your way deeply into it. Understand how she connects with it and feel it inside yourself.

7. Relax and have some fun.

That's what it's all about isn't it? Sex should always be more than just the act itself. It is a vital part of the relationship between the two of you. Make it fun and relax into it and your relationship will be transformed.

Try This Exercise

Next time you are together, feeling intimate, try the following exercise to deepen your knowledge of each other in relation to intimacy and sex. Lie down together somewhere warm and comfortable. Hold each other in an intimate and relaxed way. Let your bodies touch each other as much as possible. Do not talk and do not move more than necessary. Stay in this position as long as you feel is appropriate and just experience what happens. This should not lead to sex but should lead to a deep experience of each other's energy. Feel what is happening and enjoy it. Afterwards talk about what happened with a view to expanding your knowledge of what each other felt.

The more you take on board these lessons the deeper and more powerful your sex will become. Enjoy it and share what you feel with each other.

How To Attract Women or What puts Women off Men?

At a recent seminar the focus was on personal development and success. There was a greater percentage of women than men. So here was a perfect opportunity for men to show themselves in their strength, but did they?

The seminar involving games play. the focus was on building confidence and certainty in developing businesses and business ideas. The major focus was on a form of personal development that enabled financial growth and success. What has this to do with how to attract women? The seminar had a greater percentage of women attendees than men, even though you might think that the content was more male oriented.

The Opportunity For Men

So here was presented, as often in the personal development world, a perfect opportunity for men to show themselves in their strength and power for women's benefit. As is, unfortunately, normal, the results were just pathetic. The men came over as scruffy, weak, introverted and the women were left wondering, Where have all the men gone?.

This was not what puts men off women, but the other way round.

So what was the problem with the men? Why were they left floundering?

The clue was provided by looking at the women.

The women were dressed to impress, no matter what the style. They were conscious of what they looked like and how they presented themselves. The women had a clearer idea of who they were and projected that idea far more powerfully. It doesn't mean that they were more powerful, just that you knew where they positioned themselves in the world.

The men seemed to be unaware of how they presented themselves, who they were and how they were seen by others.

How many times have you seen a couple out for a night out, the woman is dressed to kill and the man looks like a slob in t-shirt and jeans. He thinks he's following fashion, actually he is just showing how weak and ineffectual he is.

My partner has often said to me that she loves that I enjoy dressing up when we go out. I always consider how I look and I love dressing to kill with 'Black Tie' and 'DJ' if I can. She sees it as showing my strength and certainty and it makes her feel great.

How To Attract Women - Specific Issues


Men in their twenties who are still slim can often get away with a great deal. A well chosen combination of jeans and t-shirt can look fantastic and very sexy. Beyond that age it just starts to look lazy and a mess. The clothes lack co-ordination, style and often never take the body types into consideration. There is nothing wrong with a larger man, It just needs to be taken into consideration when dressing.


Long or short, it is not important, but stylish and trimmed makes a world of difference. Greasy, uncared for and hidden beneath a sweat stained baseball cap—ughh! Think of what would happen if a woman wanted to touch your hair, something women like to do!


Standing or sitting this immediately sends a message. Do you slouch in your chair with legs spread wide? Do you realise how unattractive this is, how inconsiderate? When you stand do you bend in a defensive position or do you show your confidence?


Expression can, and does, display everything you are feeling. So often men look dead inside, not helpful in learning how to attract women. Is it because they are... dead inside? When there is expression it can suggest he is unsure, out of his depth, and fearful. You have a greater concentration of muscles in your face than any other part of our body. This is so that your face can show your inner being.


Humans are different because they walk upright, or at least they are supposed to. You show your superiority this way. If you walk in an upright, confident posture you do not need to resort to intimidation or dominance. Others can see you for what you are, even from a distance.


I was concerned about the amount of hesitation that was shown by the men. When this is combined with the awful modern habit (particularly in Australia and America) of raising the tone at the end of a sentence, we get a strong picture of someone who doesn't know what to say.


Words are everything, they can convey a rich depth and subtlety of meaning. Well at least that is the case for those that use them. Short sentences without elaboration or colour convey simply a lack of imagination. Imagination is what can drive a man forward and make him exciting—Hmmm!


Words are still only 7% of communication. What happens to the rest of it. Body language, that rich minefield of 'tells' and 'secrets', reveals even those aspects of yourself you are desperate to conceal. Whether you are speaking the truth, whether you actually believe what you say. Just watch Bobby Goren in 'Law & Order, Criminal Intent' and see this in action.


Do you even care? Does it even matter to you? Do you want to know how to attract women? Are you just an island in this amazing world of people and relationships? I hope not! Indeed I don't believe people who apparently don't care. Perhaps it's just that they don't know where to start? It begins with awareness, with that all else flows.


Getting all of the above right creates presence. Women will give everything for a man with genuine presence, a man who can walk into a room and make heads turn. Presence starts inside, it starts with yourself. Presence shows the real essence of a man. Do you have it?

I know that seems a lot! It's not necessary to work on them all at once. Start with one thing, your clothes or your hair and keep going. Remember this is not about attracting women it's about taking yourself seriously, believing in yourself. It's important to know how to attract women, it is even more important to have inner certainty and strength.