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How to Become A Man in 21 Days—Feel Amazing in the Process

Men, you get advice all the time about how to live, but you are wasting your time unless you take action. You need to look at your life and change it if the advice is going to mean anything.
Category: Experience of Men
I want to make it easier for you to take the action you need to take to put your life in order. I have created and listed 21 actions so you can become a man in 21 days. They are all specific, practical actions that will improve your life.

Create A Vision to Become a Man in 21 Days

The 21 actions have been split into 3 sections, each covering a week. The intention is that you focus on one action a day. The more actions you undertake, the more progress you will make. Here are the first seven days. When you are complete use the tabs to move to the next week.

Day 1: Create A Vision For Your Life

Why:

So you can have confidence in the direction your life is taking.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Go and write about yourself in ten years time. What are you doing and how do you feel.

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Day 2: Develop Yourself Towards That Vision

Why:

Without this the vision is pointless.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Go and find a book on your shelves that you have not yet read, that will help you, start reading it right away.

More Information:

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Day 3: Record And Resolve Your Past Life

Why:

Clear out your past conditioning to open the way for your development.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Get a notebook and start a journal right away. Start by writing your obituary.

More Information:

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Day 4: Look After Your Body

Why:

To live and enjoy a long, productive life.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Go out for a walk, today, and think about how it makes you feel.

More Information:

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Day 5: Look After Your Mind And Soul

Why:

To create inner peace and support your physical improvements.

What:

How:

Right Now:

After reading this stop and just be silent.

More Information:

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Day 6: Do What You Want To Do

Why:

So you live your life and others see that you do.

What:

How:

Right Now:

What is the one thing you want to do that you have never started? Plan to put it into action right away.

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Day 7: Clear Out Your Stuff

Why:

Release the blocks and tensions in your life, free yourself for an amazing future.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Put some stuff you do not use into a box, seal it and put it away. Write the date on the top. If you have not opened it in six months throw or give it away.

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Purpose And Relationships to Become a Man

Last week your actions around becoming a man were focused on vision and clarity. This week we move on to purpose and relationships.

The idea is to make it easier for you to take the action you need to take, to put your life in order. This week we have actions 8 to 14. They are all specific, practical actions that will improve your life.

How did you get on with the actions last week? Did you find that focusing on them helped you to build your inner strength? It is not important that you do all the actions, decide which are most appropriate for you.

The more actions you undertake, the more progress you will make.

Day 8: Review Your Friends

Why:

You are the average of the five people you spend most time with.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Who is the one person you spend time with that saps your energy, how can you change this immediately.

More Information:

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Day 9: Look At Your Strengths And Weaknesses

Why:

So you can learn to look at yourself with an appreciative eye.

What:

How:

Right Now:

What is you greatest strength? Write down how you can improve this over the next week.

More Information:

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Day 10: Join A Men’s Group

Why:

To learn how to grow as a man while learning what a man is.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Do some research on Google and see if there is a group in travelling distance for you.

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Day 11: Get A Coach Or Mentor

Why:

You need an objective view to see yourself properly.

What:

How:

Right Now:

What is the one area you need help with? Write down how you would like to change this area. Do you know someone who could help you?

More Information:

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Day 12: Find Your Life Purpose And Focus On It

Why:

For life to matter it should have a purpose and for you to matter you should focus on achieving it.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Sit and meditate for ten minutes and see if you can focus on what you think your life purpose is.

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Day 13: Learn To Dress To Impress

Why:

To be respected you need to respect those you are with.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Go and change your clothes for smart ones, straight after finishing this. See how it makes you feel.

More Information:

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Day 14: Learn To Love And Practice Intimacy

Why:

Your connections with others grow out of how you love them and how you respect their view of intimacy.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Go and give your partner a hug and tell her you love her.

More Information:

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Leadership And Presence When You Become a Man

This is the third and last week of the 21 day exercise in becoming a man. After vision and clarity, and purpose and relationships, we finish on leadership and presence.

This week actions 15 to 21 take you down the road of leadership and how to be a role model. To achieve this it is important to be present with others. This week is a crucial one in becoming a man.

The more actions you undertake, the more progress you will make.

You may have already incorporated some of these into your life, but I guarantee you haven’t done all of them, I have not.

Day 15: Release Your Anger, Become Vulnerable

Why:

Expressing the full spread of your emotions allows shame to dissipate and you to connect with yourself.

What:

How:

Right Now:

When was the last time you got angry? Write down what happened and why?

More Information:

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Day 16: Add Contribution To Your Life

Why:

Give your life meaning by giving meaning to other people’s lives.

What:

How:

Right Now:

When was the last time you freely gave to others? Could you repeat this in the next few days?

More Information:

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Day 17: Practice Being Present

Why:

The presence of a man is powerful and is the core of a great relationship.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Were you present when you were last with your woman? If yes, is this normal? If not, why not?

More Information:

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Day 18: Be A Leader, Finish What You Start

Why:

Your family looks for your leadership and follows it by modelling what you do.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Where in your life are you a leader? How to you go about this? Does it need to be changed? If so, how?

More Information:

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Day 19: Be Accountable, Stop Persuading, Stop Arguing

Why:

Stand up for what you believe in and influence others by your actions, not your words.

What:

How:

Right Now:

When was the last time you tried to persuade someone to your pint of view? When was that and what did you want to chi eve it?

More Information:

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Day 20: Give Without Thought Of Receiving

Why:

The world needs givers who create and teach, to change the energy of the future.

What:

How:

Right Now:

When did you last give? How did it make you feel?

More Information:

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Day 21: Understand The Difference Between Men And Women

Why:

We are different while still being equal, understand the differences allows you to support and empower women.

What:

How:

Right Now:

Did you take any action to support your woman this week? Is there anything you can do today?

More Information:

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The Key Is To Take Action

The key to making many of the actions above work for you is consistency. Many of them need to become habit before you’ll experience maximum benefits, but taking the recommended actions above will get you started.

You don’t have to do everything on this list, just pick the ones that you think will work best for you.

Thank you for taking part over the three weeks, keep coming back to these articles on a regular basis and take it a bit further.