[The Balance Point]

What Brings Us Joy? [What Is Beautifully Poetic In Our Lives?]

I look at becoming too serious about life and the danger that this can push the joy away. Looking at how I react to what other people think and say, I determine to bring the joy back into my life by looking at what I love.

What is the relationship between light and darkness? How are they relevant to the appreciation of joy? How can I embrace my love of light to bring joy back. Light is, and always has been, important to me. As a metaphor I see light as a physical and a spiritual presence.

Light And Dark

Look at how a single candle can both defy and define the darkness.

Anne Frank

Having spent most of my life working with light I can certainly relate to this. Light will always overcome darkness and will allow darkness to exist only by not being there. The problem for many people is fear of darkness, the idea that darkness can take over and extinguish the light. The candle pointed to by Anne Frank can always go out, but it is not the darkness which extinguishes it, it is that its flame is allowed to go out. This is the act of not maintaining the light rather than the darkness taking control.

As Brené Brown said,

The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It's our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.

Our joy is within our reach, as long as we welcome it into our lives.

Joy is not a constant. It comes to us in moments—often ordinary moments. Sometimes we miss out on the bursts of joy because we're too busy chasing down the extraordinary moments. Other times we're so afraid of the dark we don't dare let ourselves enjoy the light. A joyful life is not a floodlight of joy. That would eventually become unbearable. I believe a joyful life is made up of joyful moments gracefully strung together by trust, gratitude and inspiration.

Brené Brown

Joy is an experience that brings colour to our lives, it creates depth and meaning. Joy is something that we need to watch for and welcome, but, as Brené Brown points out, it can be easy to miss because our seeking is too important. Joy is embedded in the ordinary, it is with us every day, if we take the time to notice it.

Why am I concerned about this? Surely this is something we all understand?

The Need For Joy

Last week I looked at the pandemic and issues surrounding it. Maybe I became a little too serious, maybe I emphasised the heavy aspects too much? I listened to a podcast this week that became a bit of a rant about wearing masks and mis-information. It upset me largely because I disagreed with the point of view being expressed. But then I thought about it and wondered why this was an issue for me. I realised it wasn't.

Yes, where it concerns me personally, physically, I am concerned about vaccination, social distancing and mask wearing—I am keen to take care of myself and ensure I do what I can to take care of others. But what someone thinks on the other side of the globe has nothing to do with this. I can let it go and stop being so serious about life—other people's life.

But, as was asked in a discussion I took part in this week, how do you let go? The more you focus on the issue of letting go the more it takes you over, the more you delve into the darkness. So that is why I come to light, something I have great familiarity with. To dispense with the darkness I need light.

I then asked myself how I can bring more light into my life, how I can dissolve the darkness, the seriousness, the concern about what others think and say. Joy is the answer. I have a great deal of joy in my life, I need to focus on it more. So here is just some of the joy in my life, some of the things that lighten my life and make it amazing. They are all ordinary things but they do add up.

As you get older, you want less from the world; you just want to experience it. Any barriers to feeling emotions get dismantled. And ordinary things become beautifully poetic.

Richard Linklater

What Brings me Joy.... (the Poetic in my Life)

What things brings you joy? How often do you stop and think about them? I hope a lot.