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forty day challenge for men

Day 18: What Would You Like To Change?

Change is constant in life and is something most men shy away from. Natural change ensures you grow older and shift your viewpoint on life. Conscious change, however, can be traumatic or it can be liberating.

Conscious Change

A vision gives you a target to move your life towards, it encapsulates a process of change you build into your life. The question, though, is does it create the change that is most beneficial to you? Is this change conscious enough to deal with the issues you have so far identified? It is important that the change you seek is to yourself not to an outside situation.

Think back to the exercise on control and remember the change needs to be about you.

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves. Victor Frankl

Integrating My Life

When I left my first marriage I determined to change myself, to get rid of the mask I was wearing.

It took time to integrate all the areas of my life and be the totality of all that I was. I changed my approach to the separated lives I led; work, family, friends, personal development. I changed my approach to what I revealed and what I hid, I decided to reveal everything to everyone.

That decision proved to be far more difficult than I had imagined. I had found comfort in controlling how much people knew of me. I had developed a number of masks that effectively created a different person for each area of my life. The integration was a release, however, It allowed me to see who I really was. I found I enjoyed this new discovery.

This work is still in progress, I still seek greater integration of all parts of my life.

Challenge

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