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How To Love A Woman [10 Ways For Men To Love]

Do you seek comfort, confirmation that you are alright? Are you, at heart, uncertain about yourself? Of course, you want answers to many questions, and an important one is ‘How to Love a Woman?’

So, do you know what love is? You form a relationship and get married to affirm your place in the world. You learn, you think, how to treat a woman, how to be with her, and you call that love. But ultimately, it doesn't seem to work. You wonder where love went and wonder how to love a woman. Perhaps it was never really love in the first place, perhaps it was an attempt to feel the comfort you found with your mother. Your wife, girlfriend or partner is not your mother. The love you need to show her is of a totally different kind. Therefore, you must understand this in learning how to love a woman.

How to Love a Woman - 10 Ways For Men To Love

It is important to take the idea of learning How To Love a Woman seriously. It is not sufficient to be nice to her and hope that will do the job. If you take the following 10 Ways For Men To Love on board, your life can be transformed.

1. Start by loving yourself

If a man is unable to love himself, he is unable to love anyone else.

This is something that you might have trouble with. You might respect yourself, think you are absolutely amazing, but loving yourself, that's a bit sissy.

In a word no, it is not, it's the basis of life and the basis of a balanced personality. If you have a troubled relationship you should look, first, to yourself, this is often where the trouble lies.

2. Tell her you love her

This is lesson two of how to love a woman. She needs to know she is loved.

This means saying the words so she completely understands and is in no doubt about it. You love her. She needs you to say this all the time, and she needs you to volunteer it, not say it in reply to her questioning.

Consequently, the worst thing you can say is, "You know I do." She doesn't, that's why she's asking... Duh...

3. Just love her for herself

Love is not conditional, it is not based on any special qualities. She wants to be loved for herself.

Women have qualities that men love, perhaps they're smart, or sexy, or inspirational, or funny, or even rich. This is not why you love her, you love her just because of her, nothing else.

Even though you celebrate everything that she is, even though you worship her for what she does in the world, she needs to know that you simply love her, no matter what. This is so crucial.

4. Live in your power

Whilst a man in love is an emotional being he must not stop being the man he is.

Hence, your love should come from the power inside yourself, from your very soul. The love must be part of your power as a man, and it must be part of how you live.

You must remain just who you are, you must be the man she met and fell in love with.

She finds excitement in your masculine strength, particularly when it laced with love. Don't ever let her down.

5. Don't live in the past

Never dwell on the past and use it to judge a woman.

Life does not always treat men well, and men certainly don't always treat life well. Things go wrong and you mess up. Strife in your loving relationship is something to let go of once it's over, it's something to let slip into the past.

Surely, we must learn the lessons and move on ensuring that we don't go there again. Move on and live, always, in the present.

6. Get to know her

How often do men say, "My wife doesn't understand me." What they really mean is, "I don't understand my wife."

Undoubtedly love can only grow and deepen through understanding. You can never get to the point where you think you know everything about her, no woman is that simple. Above all she is a complex person that even she doesn't understand.

So, you need to love her and get to know her with patience and determination.

7. Count your blessings

A couple should count the blessings they have together, the things they have achieved together, all that they are as a couple.

This should be a regular part of your life together. While I said, above, don't live in the past, it's OK to recount the great things in the past. This must be tempered with looking at the amazing things you are going to do in the future.

As a rule of thumb it is advisable to expect a future way beyond one that you can imagine. Expectations can lead to frustration if they limit you, expecting them to go way beyond is a good step into the future.

8. Give love, always

Love is about giving rather than receiving.

Love is a creative force that grows out of the desire to give more than you receive.

It is crucial that you can receive the love that is offered to you otherwise it quickly dies, but you have to focus on the contribution you make to her.

"Give and you shall receive", but give without expecting anything in return.

9. Pay attention to her

Women need attention all the time.

It is absolutely vital that you understand this. Many of the annoying habits that women have are merely attempts to get your attention. Take heed of them and pay attention.

Men are focused and directed and can easily lose themselves in what they are doing. This is one of the qualities that many women love in their men, but not exclusively.

You need to find a balance that shows how important your woman is to you without losing your passion for your mission.

10. Start afresh each day

In conclusion always start the day as if it is the first day of the relationship.

Firstly welcome her into your world and look forward to your day together. Give her your love and tell her you love her. Then do it again in a different way and repeat. I am sure I don't have to tell you where to go from here.

This refreshing of your love will keep it alive and bring you closer to each other. Through this your love will deepen and become an essential part of everyday you spend together.

How Does A Woman Fall In Love

It is important to understand how a woman falls in love. Unless you understand a woman, life could get difficult for you.

Basically, it is worth starting with attraction and respect. Overall these are core issues in building a relationship between a man and a woman. Persuasion and domination will never work. Yes, they may help in getting a one-night stand, but for long-lasting love, forget it. See how this can work against you in A Relationship – Pleading Does Not Hack It.


To clarify, if the woman dislikes you as a person, you need to understand why and do something about it. In creating the relationship that led to my marriage I needed to become the kind of person she liked to be with. This ability to get on together is a vital first step. You are looking for longevity in the relationship, are you not? If not, this is the time to move on because this article is not about dating. It is important that the feeling of respect is mutual, she will immediately sense if you do not respect her, then you are finished.

In essence do not be the man that women want to mother, see more on this in Letting Go of the Need to be Mothered.


Of course respect on its own just leads to friendship, and you want to go beyond that. This is where the vital spark of polarity comes in. Love at first sight is an example of this at work. This is a bit of a pipe dream, though, because of its random nature. There are basic aspects of this, such as looking after yourself, but at heart it comes down to what kind of man you are. It helps to be interesting, exciting with a sense of dynamism about you.

In The Vital Spark Of Polarity In Relationships it says:

The masculine and feminine are like two magnets, and the principle of polarity also applies to intimate relationships: if you put their north and south poles together, they attract each other.

Gary Stamper

Polarity creates energy and intimate relationships are all about energy. This idea needs to be at the forefront of your mind when thinking about women, it is paramount

So what is love... really?

It is an overwhelming emotion you have about another person, an emotion that you cannot truly explain, but you cannot get rid of.

It makes you want to be with that person, hold them, touch them, have sex with them, and it shows itself as an exchange of energy, a polarity, that excites your soul.

In truth love makes you feel great and totally transforms life, it is worship of the other person, the woman who is divine for you.

The Key to Love

The key is simple: think of her and what she wants, or would like, and stop thinking of yourself. Of course, this applies to the whole of life, but your relationship is a great place to start.